So I have this friend (who I dated three years ago). We are like best friends at the mo, we do loads together, dinner,drink,cinema, drive each other places, I have met his daughter on many occasions. But 2nite I think was the final straw for me....about 2months ago we had the chat and said we would have fun but would not loose the friendship.....we have fun when he wants to and have yet to have ALL the fun!!! So 2nite he came for dinner and left. He loved my cooking but just said bye........am I reading too much into this or what????? What I should also say is that I haven't been holding out for him - i'm still havimng my fun.....but really just want him.............Please advise me!!!!
2006-10-10 11:26:16 · 15 answers · asked by scs005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were honest enough to add the bit , that youhave also been having your fun, this implies by definition, that you have a source of other admirers, but, that you have a particular , dare i say attraction , to this particular gentleman, , hell, let's not beat about the bush here, you obviously made a special meal , that he found to' his satisfaction ', 'loved your cooking ', your words here, , This guy, is either, so special, that you should grab him now, and never let him go, or else, keep on with the other thoughts that you have, because, any lady that made a meal for me, took that trouble, not something I have in my life, would be worth holding on to . My gut feeling on this one , is that the guy is ' hell , I don't want to hurt you, well, let's just say, his mind might just be elsewhere. good luck.
2006-10-10 11:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, your first mistake is saying something but having alterior motives,, its plain and simple. IF you tell a guy that you want to just be friends, and enjoy the platonic relationship, that's what will remain as such.. oh,, of course if they find you sexually attractive, an advance might happen, but for sure they arne't seeking more. Now, in your situation, you meant one thing but said another, as you have feelings for him. You either, .. didnt' mean what you said,, or you developed them despite the casual basis... don't be flippant about any of this.. mean what you say and say what you mean!
If you offered a meal and he came over and ate, he's met his idea of what plans you had.. especially if you both agreed that things were based on friendship. He's respecting that, and from what I've read, wants that too, unless you just get bold and take it to another level. Guys aren't mind readers and its unfair that so many play games..... no wonder they are so confused all the time!
Female perspective, so I which you well.. guys aren't all jerks, sometimes women are flighty. ~
2006-10-10 11:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Manatee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confident, some individual asked a query on how i had gotten to point 6 in only over a month, and he or she mentioned i replaced into dishonest and stuff. She have been given around 80 solutions, and a few have been particularly harsh, and made me cry, yet then human beings have been on my side. I hadn't cheated or something, yet yeah.. some weeks later, i've got been given lots of trolls and replaced into suspended.
2016-10-19 04:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take this too personally, but honestly, he's not that in to you. AT least not that way. He wants to spend time with you, but it won't go anywhere else. You had your dating time, and I don't think it will come around again. Not to mention he might know that you are "having your fun" and guys don't really want to be the leftover...they want to be the main course...and they don't want too many people sharing their dinner. So, talk with him or get over it and just be friends.
2006-10-10 11:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by tallnfriendlyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as though you haven't been totally honest with him about it - lay it all oout there for him to accept or reject - guys don't read minds and if you had the lets be friends conversation I assure you he is not considering any other way except secretly.
2006-10-10 11:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by Norman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm really not sure i'm understand you but you should be straight up with him and ask him if he feels anything for you besides just "having fun" if he doesn't then I dont think you should be hanging out with him if you have feelings for you cause then everything changes. but if he's the one into you and u just wanna have fun, then maybe it shows since he just left like dat, maybe he's not ready to just "have fun" maybe he wants more. sweety ireally didnt understand your question. whose having sex with who and who has feelings for who?????
2006-10-10 11:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by Rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not like it was a date.
2006-10-10 11:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by Nicholais S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...so let me get this straight...you and him have had sex....but are jsut friends....and you are still having sex with other guys..but you want just him. Maybe he's knowing about your other exploits and just feels that if you want just him.....then maybe you'd wait fomr him..and not go get it when you want it. jsut a perception
2006-10-10 11:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by bald_guy69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write shorter questions. Damn jabbering broad.
2006-10-10 11:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by Colin R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always the same....
Open your eyes, it was just for FUN.
Find another man
2006-10-10 22:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by GATTI S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋