I gave then $2500.00 to go to the Smokey Mountains because they had spend so much on the wedding that they could not travel. I wanted this to be special for them and he goes and wants to take from his trip money to do this I guess thats why I am so upset. But I am not going to tell....I gave him the money with no strings attached.....its his bad choice
2006-10-10 11:17:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you should say something to her, but be prepared for the fact that she may not believe you or may get angry at you instead of directing your anger at him. But, this wedding gift was for the BOTH of them, not just for him to spend on one last hurrah. Plus, I truly believe that once you commit to a person--even just as boyfriend/girlfriend--that any sexual contact outside the relationship is cheating. None of this one last fling before the wedding bull--that's unfair to his fiancee and unfair to you that he put you in the position of having to hold this knowledge. (And, before someone comments, I don't think looking at strippers or lap dances are cheating, but I do think that spending "4 hours" with a stripper/dancer doing g-d knows what or hooking up with anyone else--including kissing--is cheating.) Anyway, if you are her friend, it is definitely your responsibility to make her aware of the facts. How she deals with them or what she does with thim is her choice. And, also realize that you may end up losing his friendship if you tell on him, but I would think that you would be pretty disgusted with yourself if you kept this secret. Also, you could try reasoning with him first and finding out why he wants to do this and possibly talking him out of it, but if you can't do any of that, you should talk to her.
2006-10-10 11:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave the money to THEM not just him. You need to tell his wife because if this is idea of financial planning, there could be some really hard times in the future. Besides, she needs to know that her new husband thinks it's ok to spend that much to be alone with a stripper right after they got married! Something stinks there and she has a right to know about it. Also, tell the guy that you're really disappointed and that the money was intended to be used for a honeymoon, not a night of reckless pleasure. If you really want to teach him a lesson, tell him that since he made the choice to use the money in a way that it was not intended and chose to ignore the spirit in which the money was gifted, you expect him to pay you back for the portion that was not used for the honeymoon or his life together with his wife.
2006-10-10 11:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by brainy_blonde 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this the follow-up question to the idiot guy that is going to spend an hour with a stripper for $400!!!!!
Idiot. This guy is an idiot.
By the way, what do you think his fiance is going to think happened to the missing $400 from the honeymoon!!!!!!!!!!
I think that this is a clear BAD MOVE if you don't tell this girl. EVERYONE deserves better than this --man or woman-- no one deserves it, especially before the wedding even happens!
As a woman, I can honestly say that I would give you the same advice if the girl was doing this to her man.
Good luck with this and hope that you can live with the consequences of an injured or dismissed friendship.
2006-10-10 11:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, both of them should be aware of the sum that you gave them. If some of the money goes "missing", it's between the two of them. I'm sure that you feel what he's doing is a big waste of money - as any reasonable person would feel. But once you give the gift, you can't really dictate what it should be spent on, or lose sleep over it. Just have fun. Let the newlyweds make their choices, and be happy for them.
2006-10-10 12:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one.....I know your position because I have a couple friend and he constantly cheats on her and how do I say something when they have a family?
Unfortunately there is no right answer. She might not care and hate you for telling her.
She might care and he will probably hate you for telling her.
Or you say nothing and live with the guilt.
I chose the latter of the 3..... Telling her will not make him stop or make things better.
I know most women would say I would want to know, but I can bet that most of them will forgive them quickly and pretend it never happed and hate that you are the reminder.
I have more examples to give, but I also have a lot of answers to spread....Good Night and Good Luck
2006-10-10 18:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell.
Not because he's using your money in a way that you didn't want.
But because his future wife should know that she has been exposed to STD's, not to mention the fact that her future husbad is a slimeball (I chose to use a nice word there, btw).
Please don't let your friend marry a cheater!
2006-10-10 11:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her or when she dies of aids or whatever disease her slimebag cheating new hubby gave her you will have to feel guilty for not telling her.
2006-10-10 16:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand what your question is!
2006-10-10 11:25:31 · answer #8 · answered by kimberleibenton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋