about periods and sex? It seems like girls get their periods earlier than they use to so Im not sure at what age I should tell her.
2006-10-10 10:52:19 · 27 answers · asked by Shellee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her now but subtly they learn about it in school too so dont scare the **** out of her but yeah clue her in, its not far off
2006-10-10 10:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should inform her about her period now. I've heard of girls younger than her getting it. You tell her about the female body and how it will mature. You don't want her to be traumatized about any of this, though she probably won't with sex ed and all. You explain the girl parts and the boy parts, to a point. You establish an open line of communication on this as soon as possible. As far as sex goes, you can still wait some, not too long though. If you don't tell her, she may find out the wrong info on her own. My daughter is seven. She already knows about the period, puberty, bodily changes, boy part/girl part difference. I have not discussed sex with her. I discussed the boy parts with her because young boys are usually not shy about showing them. Sure enough, a little boy has already shown her. She also learned of the different parts in Kindergarten. She is second grade and they already discuss the period and puberty a little.
2006-10-10 18:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by Social_D 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As soon as possible. Reason being is that more and more kids are experimenting early and you want her to be informed. Some girls start their monthly at age 9 so that is a definate now talk. The sex part is essential but you also want to do it honestly and not try to scare the daylights out of her by making her think it is bad. Make her understand that she also do not ever have to just becuase her boyfriend wants her to and if he threatens to leave then say goodbye first. :) Thats what my mom did and I am happily married with 6 kids today, all kids by the same dad so there ya go.. hehehe
2006-10-10 17:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by woodlin321 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was a nanny for two years to 4 kids and the oldest one was a girl. She was 11 before her mom told her anything about it, even tho she knew the school would be doing it that year AND her family is well known to start their periods at about 10 or 11. I think that she waited too long to tell her, but it was her decision, not mine.
If I were you, I would get some books on it for the two of you to look thru and to discuss. That way, she learns it from you and you don't have to depend on the school to do their job. Some schools tell the girls and boys abut this stuff in 5ht and 6th grades; others tell them in 4th and 5th; others may not even do it and depend on the parents to do it. There are tons of books out there on this subject to help you and her. Get them from the library and answer any questions she may have about any of it. Don't wait until she hears stuff from her friends. She will gets tons of misinformation from them since they are just kids like her, and some may have older siblings that will tell them stuff just to scare them and they will believe it and tell all their friends. They will in turn belive it, and many won't go to their parents or the school nurse or their doctor to find out the truth.
2006-10-10 18:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by honey 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Mommy
I have a son that is 9 years old. He plays with cars in the dirt. He thinks girls are from Venus and made from sugar and spice and all things nice. That is great. Let her be a child. Let her act like a child untill things change and then tell her the truth. Sex can waite a while. I am so scared for kids now days ,just like you. Be that mom every one wants to be. Good luck my friend.
2006-10-10 17:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Charles Athole M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey
My sister got hers at age 11 so I would talk about the period thing around age 11-12 as for sex perhaps at age 14 and you can go from there for that is the ages my mom started to talk to me and she is a very honset person and it helped me a lot to know that I can always turn to her when I needed some quesitons answer
2006-10-10 17:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter just turned 10 years old. I told her about the monthly period to prepared her just in case. As well if one of her friends start before her should would know what it is and maybe help her if she doesn't know. I did tell my daughter anything about sex until she asked me and guess what she did. So, I sat her down and talked to her about it . In words she could understand and asked if she had any questions about it. Just be honest because she will respect you more and willing to go to you in the future which I believe is very important in today's society. Don't you agree.
Good luck I'm sure you will do fine
2006-10-10 17:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be concerned with this. Many girls start puberty at 10 now. You should have had conversations all along about where babies come from, etc. Generally, we talk to girls at the end of 4th grade about sex and periods, since most will begin their periods in 5th or 6th grade.
2006-10-10 17:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should start now... it is never too early.... and I'm sure you'd rather talk about it earlier rather than later. I have talked with sex to my son (11) since he was 4. I let him have kids books explaining it but would never force him to talk I just waited for the questions. Yes, it seems that girls are getting their periods earlier than years before so it would benefit to start having an open conversation style now so she is not intimidated by it. I know my twin girls (7) ask me questions cause they see Mommy's fem products... they saw me go to the bathroom one time and saw blood and asked me if it hurt... I didn't go in to much details and just said sometimes it hurts but all girls go through it and it's just something we deal with...
best of luck
2006-10-10 17:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by tabkat73 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Find a children's book from the library and try to explain it to her with that. Odds are that she won't have it for a few years, but your guess should have to be based off of your family history (on both sides). But explaining through a book and just talking about it is good, make sure you answer her questions. Will she ever have sex-ed in school? Many 5th Graders have the class, but I don't know about earlier...
2006-10-10 18:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by illini54519 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
now!!! I think she could start anytime and its not so bad because I would rather my daughter witch is 7 hear it from me and not someone else I soon will be having this period and sex talk cause I started my period at 8 and I was scarred my mom never talked to me about it They always say if you prepare them with good knowledge about sex and woman things it wont be so intriguing to them for them to experiment for its old news to them and they know how to control the situation because you already explained all of the curiosities she might have good luck
2006-10-10 17:59:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋