I was on the internet one day and I was bored. So I made a fake e-mail address. Then I made an avatar and sent her letters. I felt really guilty after a while because she kept questioning me. So I told her it was me. Now she hates me. Someone give me advice
2006-10-10 10:51:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Firstly....try to understand why u wanted to do this to ur girlfriend?
Secondly, why do u think she is angry with ur actions?
Think and practice what u want to say to her and tell her.
...u need to apologize to her and listen to what she has to say....
It sounds like there is more to this story and there is a possibility that she is hurt because she trusted u alot... find out why she feels like this....
When u lose trust, it is very hard to gain the trust back..
So, think of making it up with her by doing something special for her and show her how much u care and are sorry for ur little mistake..
Good luck!!
2006-10-11 03:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U really did one big mistake and one huge mistake.
Big mistake is U shouldnt have done it. Because any body though they are in love responds to opposite sex especially on the net. and moreover if u go on testing the others like this ultimately u will be shocked.
The Huge mistake is telling her that it was U. The mail cause for hating u for her is she would have afraided that had she chatted with u more than some limit she would feel guilty at U.
Though she says 'I doubt u are not confident on me', but it is not the mail reason. She fears that in future also if u test her like this and she cant pass it like this.. She feels insecurity.
Anyway tell her that u did it foolishly. (dont say for fun) and assure her that it never happens.
And last u have to know is " If u test for bad elements for a good person(whom u think) ultimately u will be shocked". Some times u have to act as if u dont know.
2006-10-10 13:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by abcdefg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...you should not have done that. It shows her that you don't trust her...because if you did you would not have "questioned" her as someone else to find out things about her and perhaps maybe seeing how she responds? I know that insecurities can take over...believe me I am a person that is jealous ALL THE TIME... The thought of my boyfriend being happy with another girl besides me (in the past or now) makes me sick... It is something that I have to get over in order for us to have a good relationship. My jealousy and insecurity issues makes it seem like I don't trust him, which is not true at all. It is time for you to take the same step. If she has given you a reason not to trust her this whole thing is understandable. Decide right now if you are going to trust her...Then if you decide that you can, don't do this kind of thing again, and don't be insecure. If she wanted to be with someone else she could, and she wouldn't be with you. OBVIOUSLY she likes you a lot because she wouldn't be so mad now if she wasn't. And also, SHE DOESN'T HATE YOU. It is kind of like you went behind her back to find out about her by doing this. She feels betrayed and like you don't trust her. You need to let her know that this is not the case and that you do. Tell her that for you guys to have a good relationship that YOU need to get over your insecurities...Tell her that it is you not her. Tell her how you feel. I hope this helps. Good luck!
2006-10-10 11:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...so let's see if this is the right perception. She's feeling that you are spying on her..If you've explained yourself and apologized yet she's still angry...then its my perception that she was looking for an "easy out". This girl is just looking for an excuse to be mad at you...would almost wonder if you left the avatar anonymous, would you have found out more about her than you wanted
2006-10-10 10:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by bald_guy69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is overreacting............and looks like she might have some subject concerns. She ought to be happy you prefer to confirm her carry out. Its extremely unusual that she would not prefer you there. i could attempt to get to the genuine reason she would not prefer you there and attempt to handle that. EDIT: that would not sound like a real reason to me. while i became in band and theater all via college, i needed everybody I care approximately there. besides - in the adventure that your any good you do not pay interest to the objective marketplace - you focus on your overall performance.
2016-11-27 19:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by hillhouse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that personally is one of the most child-ish things to do.....but w/e, I think that you should give up, cause i would'nt take you back after that.....but, my advice to you would be to say "sorry", and mean it......and sit down and talk ot her about it....
2006-10-10 10:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sami G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, thats hard. just sit her down and aplogize first off, then explain to her why you felt the need to do what you did and apologize again. we dont hold grudges for that long.
2006-10-10 10:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by mielxmezclada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reveal to her your true intentions, if it was beacuase you didn't trust her be honest. If it was pure fun, be honest... either way I suspect she thinks you don't trust her. And believe it or not men are more intuitive than women.
2006-10-10 10:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up bro. I girl dont like a child.
2006-10-10 10:54:45 · answer #9 · answered by mermer7@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was a pretty stupid thing to do, but you're a man so she needs to roll with it.
The only thing you can do is apologize to her. Eventually she'll get over it.
2006-10-10 10:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by Laquishacashaunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋