I'm in a new relationship with a younger guy. Everything is going great for us. We haven't had sex yet and everyone is giving us greif for not having sex. Both of us are on an agreement to wait until marriage. Both of us has had previous relationships destroyed by sex. What happened to getting close to someone without sex? Does anyone else out there feel that sex is over rated in relationships?
2006-10-10 10:29:12 · 26 answers · asked by foundiniraq 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting to have sex until you are married. As long as you and your partner are happy, the hell with what everyone else thinks. It is you and him that are going to be together, hopefully for the rest of your lives, not anyone else....
2006-10-10 10:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by TXDUDE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys made a smart decision. The importance of sex is different with different people and relationships. Some have it just for fun and playing around with each other. Others use it to show how they feel about the other person and show their trust in them. You don't need sex to get close so don't worry about what other people are saying.
2006-10-10 10:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by wendydahhling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex over rated? Yes and No. I believe that in order to have a good relationship you need to have a healthy sex life too. but who says that has to come first? Dont fall into the pressure of your peers either... They have NO idea what your wants and needs are.
Now, once u break the tension and have sex... if its bad, it can get better. its all about knowing and understanding what your partner wants and meeting those needs.
Take your time, if you enjoy each other w/o sex, then you will still enjoy eachother with sex.
Good luck
2006-10-10 10:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by madclowndisease420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be overrated. But it can also be undervalued. What if you get there, and realize that you have different tastes, and are simply not compatible sexually? Are you really willing to have a completely non sexual relationship with someone for life? Is he? It doesn't have to be all or nothing. You can experiment and have occasional sex, but if you don't want it to be the definition of your relationship, you should communicate your expectations to one another. Sex is the ultimate goal in any pairing. It is what drives us to be in a relationship in the first place.
2006-10-10 10:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen. Sex is important in a relationship and if anyone of you think it is not then you all are idiots.
I am not saying go to bed and have sex before your married or have sex asap. But! What are you going to do after married and find sex sucks.
Men and women get married because of what. Sex and to reproduce. If not none of us would be writing a darn thing on this space because we would not be.
Sex is important it is part of life.
2006-10-10 10:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex comes to emphasize the deep feelings and all the love that u admire for ur lover.AS a matter of fact ,sex is just a step in a relationship but it is an important step due to its great effects on both u and him, and it is just a great way to express ur feelings towards each other and show how much u love each other.
It is just another way to say i love u,and u really showing it.
2006-10-10 10:50:54 · answer #6 · answered by alfoua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this goes back to the way we live as a socity. sex is a norm now. socity puts this pressure on people guys more then girls about having sex. i think sex is overated period. It used to mean something now it's saturated into everything. Sex to me now is more of a social activity that your share with a few people kind of like a hobby. I know my last couple of relationships were looked upon like this.
2006-10-10 10:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by J D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't the thing which makes a good relationship but love and respect is. Intimacy is special though, it's something warm and sweet like bedtime cocoa, scrummy yummy, just don't confuse the two.
2006-10-10 10:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by pixiechick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do but I love it. I guess alot of couples would not make it if sex was not the main goal. Just be the way you guys want to be& forget what everyone is saying to you cause they are just being nosey anyway.
2006-10-10 10:33:54 · answer #9 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you or him have no problem without having sex...then its fine...who cares what everyone else thinks...like you and him are fine with getting to know each other and learnin about each other and not ready to take that up in the relationship...i say wait til you are both ready..til you and him are ready to sit down and talk about it...sometimes i think sex is over rated in relationships...im in a relationship and he loves me and i love him..and thats fine..we are both ok cuz its another way for us to sho our love...makin love...but thats us...everyone is different
2006-10-10 10:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by NiKkI Lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋