do women feel degraded when they go down on a guy???? If so why. Also what can a boyfriend do to not make you feel like you are not degrading yourself?????
2006-10-10 10:09:58 · 28 answers · asked by xdfsddfgdfgdfg d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It becomes degrading when the man insist on this act. Not all women are comfortable at doing this and it takes time to get use to "different" sexual acts.
I think more women than many think are molested in this manner and it doesn't bring up pleasing thoughts. So instead of doing this to please your spouse you are thinking of the abuse and start to feel degraded.
2006-10-10 10:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going down on a guy is not degrading in general. However, if you feel uncomfortable, then you should not do it. If the guy is making you say or do things that don't feel right, then it can be degrading. Just use your best judgement, and if you are not ok with what's going on, then just don't do it.
A guy should make you feel comfortable, and care about your well-being and your feelings. He should never expect it from you, or force you.
If the guy is going down on you, then it can be good for you as well.
2006-10-10 17:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women feel that way, because of the way the guy approaches the subject. Men, not all but some, act like it is expected. A lot of guys make it seem like if the woman doesnt do it, they wont be happy with her. Why make it seem like the female has to do anything, when it comes to sex, it is about what you are comfortable with, and what makes BOTH of the people satisfied. If guys would just drop the subject, the women might be more willing to try and continue to offer going down on a guy.
2006-10-10 17:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by nanners040477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh geez!! It all depends on the girl. Some women absolutely love doing this and others hate it. Its a preferance probably the way some guys like doing this to a girl and others dont. The way this would be degrading would be for you to demand the girl do this to you or start pushing her head down that way or continuously asking her to do this even though you know she doesn't like this.
2006-10-10 17:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by carleencapaldo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd feel pretty degraded myself. I would never go down on a guy — just the thought of putting it in my mouth is enough to turn me off men forever. When it goes where it should to constitute intercourse, it's more 50/50. Equal effort and equal pleasure — what could be better?
2006-10-10 17:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ummm degrading? nope.. ohh I take that back.. when forced or "expected" to.. then yes.. I feel like I'm being taken advantage of...
the only time it could ever be "degrading" would be if I was forced to perform that act in front of a group of people and I didn't want to do that...
... but.. for the life of me.... I can't see myself saying "no".. but I guess it would depend on the way i was asked... lol
2006-10-10 17:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. In fact thnk about how much control I've got down there. His most vunerable, sensitive parts are exposed to my TEETH! If I was made to feel degraded by my man, he'd be wise to keep his member away from my mouth. But if my man makes me feel like a queen...well all I can say is c um on!
2006-10-10 17:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by P. C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that is degrading. When it comes to sexual relationships there is alot of give and take. Don't expect a girl to do something on you that you wouldn't do on them. What makes the two of you comfortable? What is your girl's bounderies? Have respect for each other and put her first. What ever pleases her will be more rewarding for you. She'll want to go down on you without you asking and other favors or fantasies you have. Be open and honest with each other.
2006-10-10 17:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by foundiniraq 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys want you to do that to them, but don't want to do that to you. In that case, it is definitely degrading and disgusting. If they do you and you like it and you do them, I guess that is your business. Yet, some guys want that for themselves but the girl gets nothing in return, not even a pat on the head. I don't get why it always has to be about oral sex anyway. The regular way is so much more meaningful and loving.
2006-10-10 17:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not degrading unless the guy is being an a**hole about it. Like saying suck it B*tch or f-ing her mouth or something, then it's really degrading. but if you reciprocate or let her know you like it and treat her with respect before and after, it shouldn't be a problem.
2006-10-10 17:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by Lolo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋