My son's fiance's family is rich, we are not. They gave the two of them a substantial amount of money for there wedding and then informed my son that it is up to the grooms parents to pay for the honeymoon. They are going to hawaii. As I said we are not well off and we don't have 4 or 5 thousand dollars to shell out.
2006-10-10 09:30:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
no, i've always been told, the groom is to pay for the rings and the homeymoon!
2006-10-10 09:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by TN girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the olden days, there were these guidelines, but all have been thrown out of the window because of societal norms changing so much. Now, it is up to the bride and groom to pay for their own wedding, since usually both are working. The two groups of parents and the couple should get together for a meeting to discuss stuff like the guest list and payments.
2006-10-10 17:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, traditionally, the brides family pays for the wedding and the groom's family pays for the honeymoon. This is true. However, if they were expecting you to pay for the honeymoon, they should have discussed ideas with you from the beginning.
2006-10-11 00:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This tradition is from days when the bride was stolen property and the entire purpose of the honey moon was to hide the bride from her family until they stopped looking for her.
so if that's the tradition you want to follow, obviously the groom is responsible for the honeymoon.
What do you mean they are going to Hawaii? How did they plan a trip without paying for it? Give whatever you can (or nothing) Plenty of people take vacation to far less expensive places. Florida is fine.
2006-10-10 23:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tradition I believe is the brides family pays for the wedding and reception, grooms family the rehearsal dinner and groom pays for Honeymoon and rings.
But I personally feel the bride and groom should pay for their own wedding, recpetion and honeymoon. If you can't afford a wedding how can you afford to be married?
2006-10-10 16:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've heard that the groom's parents pay for the rehearsal dinner, not for the honeymoon. I've also heard that sometimes the groom plans and pays for the honeymoon.
2006-10-10 21:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold the phone, someone has misinformed. The groom suppose to pay for the honeymoon. If someone wants to pay for the honeymoon, that would be a wonderful gift. My daughter and her fiance saved up for their honeymoon. They are both in college, they stop going out but for 1 night a week. They started eating at MCDonalds instead of the expensive places. She would cook for him, or he would cook for him....they cut their spending so they could save.
I would have loved to be able to hand them a honeymoon, but the wedding cleaned me out. His family paid for the rehearsal dinner, and they told them they were on their own for the honeymoon. Don't feel bad, if you can give me a small gift of money, but don't put yourself in the poor house so they can go to bask in the sun. They can go to the local motel for a couple of days, you have done your part. Honeymoon is the groom's, unless the bride wants to help.
No, I am afraid it's up to your son to provide the cash for that.
If you could help that would be wonderful, but I wouldn't go borrow money for it. I love my kids, but for that no. I hope your son has a beautiful wedding and has a wonderful honeymoon that he can afford to pay for hisself....
God bless us all..................
2006-10-10 17:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, the bride's family pays for the wedding excluding:
the officiant, the license, the groom's tux, and the bride's bouquet. (The groom/or his family pays for those items)
The groom is in charge of taking care of the honeymoon. Whether that means he gets his family to help him out or not is his concern.
No one is 'expected' to pay for the honeymoon outside the couple. If parents pitch in, it is welcome, but not assumed.
If your son wants to go to Hawaii, then he'd better figure out how to pay for it himself.
2006-10-10 16:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by Rainy Days and Mondays 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
usually the brides parents pay for the wedding and invitaions and things like that. the groom pays for the rings and marriage license. and sometimes the grooms parents pay for honeymoon. it dont have to go that way though. my fiance is buying our rings and i am paying for the wedding (because my parents cannot afford it) and my fiance's mom is paying for the photographer.
good luck on everything, and congrats to you son
2006-10-10 16:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by adiogurl_16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, the grooms parents pay for the rehearsal dinner............that's it.
Weddings are really getting carried away these days. I told my daughters to elope.
The most important thing is the marriage, not the wedding.
2006-10-11 18:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your son that is responsibility to pay for the honeymoon and if he does not have it they should save for it and go at a latter time. Your son needs to talk to the bride.
2006-10-10 16:41:44 · answer #11 · answered by Nani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋