I will try to be brief. We are both 31, we were in an awesome relationship and one day she drove me crazy and I left her. For 2 1/2 months I tried to have her back, I couldn't. So we split. Now after almost 2 months later, she wrote an email saying it feels strange that we are not talking at all, in the past when we broke up she asked me to not to contact her, I'm sure she miss me being after her like a puppy, that's for sure, but I don't know if she miss me for who I am. I love her, but I don't trust that person really knows what she wants to be honest, I was hurted REALLY bad in those days. What would be a response for her? "Thanks", "Get the hell out of here", "Make up your mind", "I hope you are doing well", I don't want to be like her exboyfriends that are still kissing her butt after years they broke up, ideas?
2006-10-10 09:29:47 · 11 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think clean breaks are usually best. Even if you miss the person like crazy, it's almost always better for all involved to work through it on your own and maybe (*maybe*) down the road you can be friends again.
It's obviously up to you if you trust her, but also make sure you consider what you're doing to yourself if you let her back in your life. Even if she has nothing but good intentions, and even if she's nothing but nice, that doesn't mean it's a good idea. Just make sure you carefully weigh what you're getting yourself into.
2006-10-10 09:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kissing her butt may be but she is use to. I've dated the flirty tease girl that likes to be chased around. She knows she has the power, she knows you or other men want-DESIRE her. Thus that hound chasing the bone, she feels she has lost her grip on that control. However, she may be for real. You would know from experience as to who she is inside. Trust your heart, yes you love her, are you willing to do whatever it takes to prove that to her? She may remember all the good times, she probably misses you in every which way. Yes you and her get in arguments, you and her should(if you ever get back together) make a commitment that a fight wont end what you have between each other.
2006-10-10 09:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say,"we broke up,what do you want to do?Do you want to get back together or leave our relationship alone?"Of course mean it in a little less harsh way,sorry I can get harsh when I answer questions like this.If she drove you crazy,why be with her?You shouldn't be kissing her *** and following her around like a stalker.You have a life.You've got no time for that.Of course it all adds up to love.Find out if you still have feelings for her.
2006-10-10 09:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the middle of the same deal my view is to her
i love you BUT i want you to take this time why we are
apart and really find what you need out of life cause the pain
both ways is too much and since we went through it already
make damn sure you find what you need and then maybe we
can talk . im learning trying to jump right back in is only gonna
cause more of a heart ache be strong man hold your ground
2006-10-10 09:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by king richard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep it real with her. Respond back that you are happy to hear from her if you are happy. If your not happy to hear from her, tell her you find her email disturbing. Sounds like you still have feelings but don't trust her. If that is what you feel just say, you appreciate her email and would like to communicate with her cautiously. Sounds like if her ex's are still contacting her - it is because she provokes them. I would proceed with caution. I always base my contact with my ex's on how they have changed for the better. If I don't see any changes, then I back away quickly.
2006-10-10 09:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel in your heart.
I mean if you don't want to have anything else to do with her because of the things that she has done to you...then don't.
If she can't understand that then that is her bad.
2006-10-10 09:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Boo8081 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont burn your bridges, keep her on the side for a piece when you get the chance, but dont event think of having a relationship thats longer than a couple hours after a drnk or two.
2006-10-10 09:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What took her so long to get in touch with you. I think you should just move on and never look back.
2006-10-10 09:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Alisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes disappointed, and clearly feels crap approximately what passed off she might have pretended to be ok approximately it whilst shes particularly not or perhaps such as you mentioned shes attempting to get a reaction yet you ought to locate out so message her asserting "hi, we havent spoken for a mutually as, i desire your all stable" and spot what occurs from there :)
2016-10-19 04:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. There are plenty of other women in the world.
2006-10-10 09:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋