Shouldn't girlfriends be considered a man's property?

Question

The background...I'm 27 and my girlfriend is 24. Her dad has given me permission to marry her, and she has an engagement ring on her finger. I took her to the mall the other day and we went to one of the anchor stores and I had to go to the bathroom, so she just walked around looking at some clothing. Well, I come out and this guy is "hitting" (flirting) with my girlfriend. I told him he better get away from my property and that ring means she belongs to a man. He told me that women aren't owned and that she wasn't my property, blah, blah, blah...We ended up getting in a huge fight and the security guards came out and broke us up, then they interviewed me in this room and I told the guard what happened and he said that girlfriend's aren't property. I was like whatever, and I got expelled from the mall for 6 months. Fortunately, my girl took care of some cuts I had and told me she loves me and she knows her place and I don't have to prove it, but what's with these other jerks?

Answer 1

There jealous. I have a myspace account and it said Property of Mat's he loved it. Made him feel special... dont let some guy try to ruin your day.. believe your girl when she says "she loves you and she knows her place and I don't have to prove it"

Answer 2

Well if you feel like you are married already then I can see why you'd be upset. But a "girlfriend" in general is not property, despite the male's need to own things by giving gifts that display ownership to a woman of his choice. This is meant to ward off other males. But some males take this as a challenge. Dont ask me why.
I am a woman and I do not believe I would like to be owned or called property. In fact if someone that I was with referred to me as property in any way, shape, form etc. I believe that would be the end of that relationship. I was born alone into this world, and will die alone. Anyone I CHOOSE to know and let know me in return is a gift we give each other and should not be taken for granted. There is no owning. I will always do what I want. The end.

Answer 3

I have a feeling that you are not ready for marriage. First, marriage is not based on having your spouse as property - it's a 50:50 deal. You're doomed from the start if you feel this way - I give it a year. Second, the fact that you are saying 'whatever' and are worried about being banned from a mall, show your youth. Third, a brawl in that said mall - that's actually funny. Fourth, you should tell her dad about all this and see if he still approves - my guess is that he'll be ready to fight when you mistreat his daughter. When you grow up and are ready to put this woman on a pedestal and be secure in your relationship, you will be ready for marriage. Maybe Dr Laura can help.

Answer 4

People are not property, though they are often treated as such.

Once you are married, you belong to each other, but you still are not property.

Until you are married, the law still sees you as 2 separate people. Keep this in mind if big purchases come up (house, car, etc.). For some real life examples of this, just watch a few episodes of Judge Judy.

If your girlfriend is flirting with other guys, you may want to reconsider marriage. If your girlfriend is okay with you treating her as a possesion, then you shouldn't be surprised if someone else takes her. Afterall, she is just a thing in her mind as well as yours.

Answer 5

property is something you consider to be of material value and for which u pay a price and u owe it here check this definitions:

* place: any area set aside for a particular purpose; "who owns this place?"; "the president was concerned about the property across from the White House"
* something owned; any tangible or intangible possession that is owned by someone; "that hat is my property"; "he is a man of property";
* a basic or essential attribute shared by all members of a class; "a study of the physical properties of atomic particles"
* a construct whereby objects or individuals can be distinguished; "self-confidence is not an endearing property"
* any movable articles or objects used on the set of a play or movie; "before every scene he ran down his checklist of props"

>>>>>>>friend she is not ur property under law u cant prove her ur property...dont get me wrong she is also a human being and to be loved and chersied and not to be owed as a material thing...what u meant by her being urs is different then calling her ur property...u cant call ur parents ur property neither can u call another human being ur property...next time if someone does that just say in simple word" look i liek her love her and am getting married to her better would be if u dont mingle with her" as for ur girlfriend tell her to take responsibilty if she is with u then stop chatting to outsiders who give u guys headache

Answer 6

no girlfriends are not property. That attitude is what will amke you lose your girl. What that ring means is that you are a team. YOu treat it as a team. YOu do not own it you do not treat it as you think you should. You treat it like something that will go away forever. And even though every woman loves to see her man defend her, NOT over something like that. You should have told the guy that she was your fiance and then you should have asked her why she didn't tell him that!!! A little curious don't you think?

Answer 7

Well its like this if that is her attitude when your changing in the store what is it when you are at work say 8 to 12 hours a day, plus the mall is the USA shallowest places aside from bars take her some place nice if she wants you to spend money on you all the time like a lot dump her she is a gold digger.

By the conversation at the mall I could say she is something else.

Answer 8

Dude, if she's wearing your ring that should be enough for you right there. The fact that other guys hit on her still does not make her your property. Don't ya think other guys can still hit on her after she's married. And even then that still don't make her your property. You can't own someone. What century do you live in.

Answer 9

She is no more your property than you are hers. She doesn't need her father's permission to marry you. You aren't entitled to anything just because you gave her a ring.

Ideally, her father has given you his approval to marry your girlfriend, if she CHOOSES to marry you. You have given her a ring as a symbol of your love, not as some weird PROPERTY ALARM SYSTEM.

The two of you seem to be OK with this twisted logic, so whatever floats your boat...

Answer 10

ok.I'm a gril and i"m not agree with this thing "'a grilfriend it's a man's property" i hate when guys say this, i say that a grilfrind it's more like a part of a man not his property.You what to have a grilfriend because she gives you what a boy can't i say that she complet's you.When you have a thing you do everyting you whant because that thing it's not having a soul a minde so you see that you are his soul and minde.but when you have a grilfriend this person because she isn't a object has a soul a minde and when you are in trouble she's there for you to suport you to make you happy let's get's say that are some of the things that an object can't do.So i say when you think that your grilfriend i is your proerty think at what i say about objects, objects can't take out from your bed day or things like this.I see to think about .

Answer 11

speaking as a woman, we are not property, and i cant believe that you girl said that she new her place. i see that you are some kind of control freak and she has fallen into it. SAD!! so what are you going to do walk around beating up on every guy that talks to your girl? you seem to me as a very insecure liitle boy. grow up. so what if someone flirts with her, the important thing is she goes home with you! right? get over your self. this kind of behavior may be cute now but trust me it will get old fast. from her stand point. then there will be nothing there for you to fight about.