2006-10-10 09:23:45 · 18 answers · asked by Pretty me :) 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You should tell her that you've realized you are too weak to be an effective parent and you are giving her to an orphanage. But you won't. So the next best thing is to remember that you are (supposed to be) the parent. Going to school or staying home is not a choice that's she makes. She goes to school. That's what she does. No discussions. No debate. Bye, don't miss the bus. The more time you spend "explaining" yourself, the more she is getting the idea that this is something to be discussed, so you don't do that. It's school. I say you go. You go. End of discussion.
2006-10-10 09:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you let her talk about what she doesn't like, she will feel like you understand. So don't just say, "But school is fun! Coloring and singing songs and playing!"
Say "Tell me something you don't like about school." Then, whatever it is, find a way to agree with her a little, either by saying "Yes, some kids ARE very loud," or just, " You feel sad when Jimmy takes your toys." You can also say, "When I was 4, sometimes I wanted to stay home, too."
That makes it a little easier for her to take when you say the school is important and staying home isn't an option. And of course, she gets to come home at the end of the day.
2006-10-10 17:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As mentioned by a previous poster, you should ask her why? I don't know about where your at, but where I live, the age of 4 is still only preschool, and that is not all day long anyhow. She may be having separation anxiety, but she will learn to get over that in time. Soon, she will have to start kindergarten, and at that point, in most states if she is truant from school it falls into the parents laps. You don't want to scare her by telling her you can go to jail, but you might want to mention that as her parent, it is your job to make sure she goes to school. And if she goes to school, she is helping making your job easier, then ask her what you can do to make her job as a student easier. Let her feel and know that she is part of a bigger picture then just not liking school.
2006-10-10 16:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by nanners040477 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is a problem at school..you should be really careful with that! One of the 1st signs children services will tell you,,,,,,is to be alarmed when the child crys or does not want to go to school. I would send her to school wait an hour and pop up and sit with her in class though out the rest of the day!
2006-10-10 16:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by cody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your the parent. Are you going to have your 4 year old tell you if she wants to go to school or not? She still has until 12th grade to get threw.
I would talk to her. Ask her what is going on. I would also call the teacher and ask if there is a problem. Maybe she doesn't have friends. Maybe she gets picked on. Maybe she missed her mommy and needs to know that it is okay for her to be away for a while.
2006-10-11 19:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course she wants to stay home, she wants to be around you. But, as a preschool teacher I can tell you that she is reacting normally; all children that age would rather be around their parents. Tell her that preschool is for her to grow and learn, that you believe in her and she needs to be in school.
Children who attend preschool have been shown to do much better all through their school careers.
2006-10-10 16:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by chieko 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask her why? Maybe their is a reason. Just talk to her and ask her what the problem is if any. Chances are its hard for her to be away from you. Maybe talk to her teacher or something, maybe you could sit in a few times a wk or what not.
2006-10-10 16:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by LaAlicia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Figure out which of the two of you controls the situation and review the possibilities that the child might be leading the adult
2006-10-10 16:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by whistler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unlike all these people that want to pull the "boss" Card kids a functional too... My child didn't want to school but that was because his "friends" weren't nice to him. once we got that issue worked out... He loves it and now tells me that "I can't pick him up until later and later" so talk and they shall speak
2006-10-10 16:53:57 · answer #9 · answered by Stuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are the boss and she must do what the boss says. On another note......you may want to find out why she doesn't want to go. There could be more to this than you realize.
2006-10-10 16:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by Eldude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋