2006-10-10 09:21:45 · 13 answers · asked by lynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been in this same situation where my wife felt like I wasn't showing my love for her. Its hard for men. We just aren't wired that way. What you should do is tell him what you need, in specifics. Do you want to go out everyweek? Do you need to talk more often? Lay it out REALLY clearly for him.
Next, look at what he does do for you. People have their own "languages of love". People show affection in different ways. Ask him how he likes to show you how he cares and tell him what you need. The results can be interesting and life-changing.
Lastly, really evaluate whether he isn't showing you what he feels or if he just doesn't feel it. Maybe he's wrong for you? In any case, don't be quick to judge or make a decision.
2006-10-10 10:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by evergreenjamal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep being yourself, but do sweet things like write him notes, and compliment him (as long as it is honest.) Once he knows that you care deeply for him, he should start opening up more and showing his feelings. But don't have a talk with him about it because that might just scare him or make him think he isn't pleasing you. Just be yourself and show him how much you care.
2006-10-10 09:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you want him to do? Bring you flowers? Buy you stuff? Sweetheart, if you know it, then don't mess with a good thing. See thats the problem with women. We want our men to show it! Sorry! He does things that you just don't see! I think you want a big production and well, thats not what men do! You need to stop and think about things he does for you.
Like, does he make fun of you? No..then he just showed he respects you. Does he do little things for you, like pick up after you, help you with school/work. Listen to you pitch a b*tch when you're on your period? If he does, then he is showing that he cares..
Look for the little things and don't give it another thought...
2006-10-10 09:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Pandora 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't "make" someone do what you want them to do, but you do have the right to ask him for what you want and need. If you tell him that you would appreciate cards, flowers, romantic dinners, or whatever else it is that your looking for, and he does not respond to it, then you need to decide for yourself if you are getting what you need out of the relationship and if it is worth it for you to stay, or to find someone else who is willing and capable of giving you that.
2006-10-10 09:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by sadinLA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. If you have expectations about a partner in a relationship you will be bitterly disappointed.
All you can do is love him for who he is. If you don't like who he is it's time to move on. Not only will he never change, but you shouldn't want him to - do you want a wishy-washy wimp?
FP
2006-10-10 09:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cant get him to do anything, he has to do it himself. Remember, actions speak louder than words. If he's not showing it maybe its not there.
2006-10-10 09:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey...if he doesn't do it on his own you're pretty much lost...b/c there's no man that's just simply going to "start" showing respect and love
2006-10-10 09:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by aReLy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some guys dont like to show thier private parts, ask him if some dim light would be ok.
2006-10-10 09:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Got2seeit 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him guideness.. leave little notes laying around for him. maybe he will catch on.
2006-10-10 09:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by SouthernGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. He'll either do it or he won't. You'll have to choose whether to live without it or break up with him.
2006-10-10 09:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋