what do i do if i love the guy im dating but he is an @$$ and i like a guy i know from work and he is totally sweet....only problem is he has a daughter....what should i do..im tired of being treated like crap but i also love this guy(the one im dating) with all my heart and wouldnt know what to do if we broke up...please help
2006-10-10 09:16:51 · 8 answers · asked by Licia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What about this guy makes you love him? He treats you badly! Is this really something you want to live with forever? You have another guy who is nice to you. Dump the jerk and go out with the nice guy.
2006-10-10 09:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him...if he is an @$$ now and you're only dating, he's liable to get worse should you ever decide to marry. As for the man with a daughter, don't discriminate against someone just because he has a child; the older you get, the more these common these odds will be. Whatever you do, try not to hop out of one relationship and into another; give yourself time to be single again.
2006-10-10 16:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by Candilaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you love someone its hard to let go,but if he is treating you like crap an you tried everything to make it work out between you guys, then you need to take the next step by letting him go, cuz if not you will end up cheating on him cuz you are in a relationship that you are not happy with.and about the other guy its nothing wrong with talking to someone that have a child cuz put yourself in his shoes would you want someone to turn you down just because you have a child.i know you wouldn't want that,so give him a chance you never know what could happen if everything works out.
2006-10-10 16:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by distantloverbabyblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,the only thing I've got for you is use common sense.Get to know the guy at work,then you can choose.Also ask certain questions that you might think could help your choice.Analyze your boyfriend,if you see what he's really about then leave him.You shouldn't be going through that crap.If you and your boyfriend do break up,I hope you two break up for the better.There's always a soulution to every problem.
2006-10-10 16:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you asking this question? you have already answered it. you say that you are in love with this guy and dont know what you would do if you broke up. well it seems to me that you dont mind being treated like crap. cause if you did you would not love him. get it?
2006-10-10 16:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow some self-esteem and do not allow yourself to be treated like crap. Leave the guy from work alone. It is never a good idea to dip your pen in the company ink.
Build yourself up from the inside out. Get out of your comfort zone and remain single. It's better to be alone than to with you were. Try some new activities, and practice them until you get good enough to teach them to others. Master a skill you already have. Accomplish things. That builds self-esteem.
You are afraid to be alone because it is partially biological (back in the days before civilization, that meant a death sentance for a female and her children) and partially because you lack self esteem. You can only do something about one of those reasons.
You define yourself by the approval you seek from others. Why? Because you have not lived long enough to accomplish very much yet, or experience what kinds of guys are out there.
Each guy you are emotionally invested with teaches you more about yourself. They teach you more about what you require from someone (set your standards, which are apparently pretty low to tolerate your current boyfriend) what you need from someone, what you wil/won't tolerate from someone, and what you are wiling to give to someone. You gain experience and wisdom from each involvement.
That's why you won't really know what love is until you are in your late 20's or when you're 30. Right now, you mistake hormones and physical chemical reactions in your body for feelings of love. Your body releases endorphins and makes dopamine when your relationship is new (butterflies in the stomach) and gives you a "rush" or a "high". That doesn't mean love.
Love is more about confidence and certainty of your partner's feelings for you, and yours for him. It has total trust, respect, acceptance empathy, and unconditional positive regard. You will never have to wonder, worry, or question your partner's feelings for you because his behavioe will match exaclty with what he tells you. He will always consoder you and your emotional needs. He will be able to walk in your shoes and appreciate your experiences. He accepts all that you are and you are about.
You are too young to even know yourself that well. If you did, you would have higher standards in men, you would not alow them to treat you badly, you would understand why workplace relations are a bad idea and not even consider it, and you wouldn't be so needt and desperate.
You would already know that you can't rely on a man for your self-esteem and your own worth. You would know that you can't define yourself by the approval of others. You would know that your feelings are your responsibility, your choice. No one else wants that job, anyway. You would find peace and happiness in being single, available, and independant.
Dump the loser, don't date the coworker. Dat other guys. Date many, but not exclusively. Pay attention to if their behavioe matches what they say to you. pay attention to if they want to know more about you, or if they just want to make you like them. Pay attention to if they try to impress you or ask you what's on your mind.
Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Don't allow yourself to become too emotionally invested in guy unless you know him well, you have dated for several months and seen consistency in his behavior and what he says. Don't ever put out to try to make a guy like you. He won't. Don't even sleep with anyone unless you have dated exclusively for at least 6 months.
2006-10-10 16:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have confidence in yourself, that you CAN be okay without your current guy. Why be with someone who doesn't treat you right? It doesn't make any sense.
I suggest getting over your current BF and taking some time to yourself. THEN you will be ready to truly meet and date someone new!
2006-10-10 16:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you like a guy from your work then you obviously dont really love the guy your dating in a romantic way.
2006-10-10 16:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by fantasygirl334 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋