Ok, so I went out with this guy several months ago because i was recently out of a relationship and wanted to start dating again. I had found him attractive long before i was single and even though i knew i wasn't ready for anything serious, I went out with him anyway. We had a lot of fun together and really clicked intellectually. Then there were a few months where he was working in a different city and we stayed in touch with almost daily instant messages. Then when he was back, i was on holiday. We saw each other a few times when we were both back in the city and I realized that i was developing real feelings for him. I asked him to have dinner with me and i was planing to be honest with him. He said it was a bad time when i asked him, and that he'd be in touch and get together soon. He never called. I took that to mean he didn't have feelings for me.
That was a month ago. Today he sent message apologizing that it took so long and asking me to go out with him!? Confused!
2006-10-10 08:53:40 · 5 answers · asked by norberta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know we are both REALLY busy people, but c'mon!?! a month-- without even just saying hi? I've been out with other guys in the meantime, but don't have as much in common with any of them as i did with this guy. Even though he hurt my feelings, and was just plain weird... should i see him again?
2006-10-10 08:57:04 · update #1
If I were you I'd ask him to explain why he hasn't bothered to call, im, email, nothing in a month. You may decide to go with him again if his explanation is a good one. BUT, I really don't think he's that interested because NO ONE is too busy to at least call, or email. I mean how long does a simple, "Hi, don't have long to talk but just wanted you to know I'm thinking about you" take? Guys, and Girls alike will both make time for things and people that they want to make time for. He doesn't sound that interested to me.
2006-10-10 09:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The two of you seem to have been having an on/off relationship anyway, so maybe you should hear the guy out. Really, do you have any more to lose than an evening?
2006-10-10 15:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by Akfek_Branford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused 2!!! lol. Um.......he might still have feelings for u. Maybe he was just busy caught up in something.......it's only a month. Give him time and let him explain 2 u y he didn't call for so long. If his excuse is buy-able then forgive him. f u have real feelings for him u wud. GOod LUcK!!!
2006-10-10 15:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by v.ballerr <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be a really valid reason he took so long in asking you out again. Ask him what he has been up to for the last month.
2006-10-10 15:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by BEER GUY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably met someone and wanted to see if that worked out. It turns out it didn't and then there is you. If you had nothing real or solid before you can't be mad at him. It's not like he was your BF and he left you. So why not try it again. Nothing ventured, nothing gained!
2006-10-10 15:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by Pimp E 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋