have u ever wanted to be with someone quiet bad but when u get with them ur not as happpy in that relationship as you thought u would be but dont wanna end it because u know hes happy and its wat u wanted for a while, wat would you do?
2006-10-10 08:40:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For it to work you've both gotta be happy. You can't tell by looking at a pair of jeans on a hanger if they'll suit you or fell comfortable, you have to try them on. Likewise with relationships.
There are no guarantees in life, but you only have one shot at it so make sure YOU'RE happy! Talk to your partner about why you're not happy and see what happens. If things don't change............It's your call luv.
2006-10-10 09:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay with the guy because you've come a long way to wanting to be with him and better yet maybe this relationship you're having needs blooming or something!
Try communicating with him and see what you two can do in the relationship to boost your feelings!
I've never actually gotten to be with the guy i like yet but you should consider yourself lucky because all your hardwork and feelings have been heard; Maybe you need sometime alone to think about what is it that doesn't make you happy? Is it the guy himself or is it that your bored? It'll be really useful to note down what you actually saw and see in him; at first what made you like him? Because that way you can give yourself some feedback from the moment of meeting him and what you felt!
You said you're not happy but do you still love him? if yes, then there is still hope for you in this relationship...if not then maybe you might think maybe think about breaking up with him. Even if you dont wanna hurt his feelings (Which is very nice and kind of you...sorta ...cause you certainly care alot about him and his feelings!!!) Breaking up with people isn't very nice, however you could always still be friends ^_^ I mean...when you're in a relationship - it could be great but sometimes you may feel you need time to think about things...it could be because you've rushed into this relationship or something!!!
Time, communication, commitment and understanding is very improtant within a ship before it can set sail to the land of paradise!!!
2006-10-10 16:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by saiyuki c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should end it. i was in the exact situation last year and me adn my friend have liked each other for a couple of years and we finally went for it adn when we went out to the movies he wanted to hold my hand but i didnt feel a spark, i actually didnt want him touching me casue it felt weird. i stayed in the relationship for a while just cause i felt bad but ended up ending it. he was mad at first but we became friends again after... your not happy and your just dragging him alone so y wait?
2006-10-10 15:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We are attracted to what seems unobtainable and sometimes once we have it we are disallusioned very quickly. If you are feeling like taht best to put it down to experience and move on.
2006-10-10 16:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too influenced by shallow things
try and see what the real you wants
2006-10-13 04:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by q6656303 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋