Are we suppposed to do this. We have recently helped with a down payment for their house. I am willing, but my husband is reluctant.
2006-10-10 08:33:05 · 22 answers · asked by tina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Help them with what you can--it really depends on your finances or what you can afford.
2006-10-10 08:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by nguler_rn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically the grooms parents pay for the rehearsal dinner, the going away corsage, the other family members corsages, the brides bouquet, boutonnieres, marriage license, liquor and the reception band or DJ. However not all of this is mandatory. If they asked to pay for the flowers and you can, then I would. If you go by what all of the "rules" say to pay for it would not be all of the flowers though. They would still pay for ceremony decorations and centerpieces, etc. which can be a very big chunk. If there is a certain amount of money you can afford for flowers ask them what they need, and offer up what you can. If what you offer doesn't cover it, they will have to either cut back or the bride's side will cover it. The one thing you should pay for without blinking an eye, is the Rehearsal Dinner.
2006-10-11 11:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by blueeyedlovebug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is a joining of 2 families, think of it as a gift, and maybe your husband will be less reluctant. And if they are paying for the rest of the wedding, flowers couldn't hurt to help them with. I don't know the entire situation, so if flowers would really put you out, talk to your son and let him know. You don't HAVE to do this at all, traditionally the females parents are supposed to pay for the wedding, but I think it would be a nice gesture. Good luck and enjoy the wedding! J
2006-10-10 15:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally it is the parents of the groom that pay for the rehearsal dinner and then the booze at the reception. This is the very traditional frame of mind, though.
Flowers can cost quite a bit, so if you choose to do so, set a budget and go with the couple to pick them out.
Personally, I would never ask my parents to help me buy my house AND pay for flowers. When my fiance and I bought our house is was just us with 10% down and we paid 100% for the wedding...
2006-10-10 15:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by KL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, whatever you have paid to help with the house has absolutely nothing to do with the wedding. That is totally separate and between you and the couple. That is just not related.
Weddings these days are usually paid for by the couple, who are usually both out in the working world. The two sets of parents should meet with the couple and discuss wedding guests and budget items. There is no "supposed to" anymore, but it's usually nice if parents kick in some if they can.
2006-10-10 17:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically, the groom's parents only pay for the rehearsal dinner but you have to sit down and decide on the financial end of it and what you want to pay for. Flowers can get really expensive. It is really something that you should work out with your son and his fiance. Good luck and congratulations on your son's wedding!
2006-10-10 16:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The flowers are part of the "traditional" costs that the groom's family pays for. If her parents are paying for the rest of the entire wedding (probably upwards of $20,000) and all you are asked to pay for is flowers, you're getting off really light!
Of course, you don't "have" to pay for them. You don't have to help out at all with the cost of the wedding, but expect that to be reflected in the number of guests you are allowed to invite.
2006-10-10 16:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to go online. I got ALL of my flowers for a western themed wedding for less than $300 dollars. I think a down payment on a house is sufficient enough gift.
2006-10-10 16:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally speaking the Groom's family pays for a honeymoon, the brides bouquet, housing for the ushers, so on and so forth. Visit http://www.theknot.com for details regarding traditional roles of parents. So yes it is customary for the grooms parents to pay for SOME flowers, whereas the reception flowers and ceremony flowers are still paid for by the brides family.
2006-10-10 16:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's you choice. You and your husband know what you've already contributed to the couple's future, so if you'd "like to" (cute choice of wording) pay for the flowers, go ahead. Are you going to be involved with choosing, or just presented with a bill? You could set a dollar amount and pay part if they go overboard.
I think I'd agree with your husband, though. Is the couple contributing anything?? Her parents picked up the wedding, his parents picked up the house-- what are they funding themselves?
2006-10-10 15:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their are certain flowers the grooms family is supposed to traditionally pay for. These include: Brides bouquet and any hair flowers, groomsman and usher bouts, mother and father bouts and corsages/bouquets, and sometimes grandparents.
The Brides side pays for any servers corsages, any musician flowers, wedding coordinator corsages, all bridesmaid bouquets, possibly grandparents if not paid by groom, and all decorations (arrangements, pew markers, cake flowers, centerpieces, door wreaths, etc....)
Ussually, the amount pd by the grooms side is tiny compared to the brides...the arrangements ussually add up!
2006-10-10 16:12:19 · answer #11 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋