Do you think it's bad to have your first child in high school? Honest opinions.?

Answer 1

No, i had my first child when i was 16 and was preg. w/ my 2nd my Sr. year i still graduated w/ good grades and im preg. w/ my 3rd and im in college and im doing fine. so dont feel bad or discouraged b/c theres alot of young mothers that are not doing anything.

Answer 2

Honestly--yes I do think it's "bad." Can it work out? Of course. The reason why I think it's bad is because a person still in high school would have it hard. Not only should they complete school and get their diploma they would have to go to work to support the child. That would be a long time away from their child. They would be away all day--the child in daycare or somewhere else. A full time high school student who works a full time job would make it so they would be away for 12+ a day missing out on the child's life. It can work, it has worked, but I feel bad for the parents who cannot watch their child grow.

It's not a matter of being a good or bad parent but it's about being in a "bad" situation.

Actually I'll put it this way. A "good" parent (what I believe, in no means am I trying to be factual) would be in a "bad" situation. They would want to provide for their child financially and emotionally. This would mean they would have to work and go to school which even regular teenagers have issues with. If the teenager didn't use their parents or used minimal government assistance they would be in a "bad" situation.

Answer 3

Well it's not up to me to say if it's bad or good but it's definitly not good. A baby comes with a lot of responsbilities and when a person is not ready then the person shouldn't give get pregnant. Some ppl say oh having a child makes me strong but what about going to school and giving the child what it needs. I know someone who had a kid when she was 14 and her daughter is living in hell. The woman still didn't grow up. She goes to parties, throw parties at her house and she even smoke infront of her daughter. IF you can't give the baby the nurture and love along with great care then don't do it. What about the baby's future and your future?(in general) AND do you think you can still finish school? Having a baby means being a full time mom. People who says you can stil finish school and take care of the baby at the same time then they're wrong, the baby needs the parents tthe most and the parents need to be there with the baby.

Answer 4

I want to know how our world got so screwed up that someone would even THINK of asking this question.

OF COURSE IT'S BAD !!! You're in highschool where you should be learning things and making tons of friends. Not letting some loser pound away on you and changing your life.


So you want an honest opinion?

If you really really want a kid, and If you can afford to raise a child, or your husband, or "baby's daddy" talked about it and he will do the right thing and stand by you and raise his child.... you know what- It's still wrong because you're in a dreamworld and he's lying.
If you just want to drop your pants and get knocked up on a Friday night and then expect to get government handouts for the next 18 years, or if you were under pressure to spread your legs and show him how much you loved him and , you should be ashamed of yourself.

Your only job right now is to do good in school. When that's done you can start your next job - marriage, college, kids, career.

Answer 5

I do think having a baby young (while in high school) is bad. A baby is a big responsibility emotionally, physically and financially. Being a mother is a full time job which means no more hanging out with your friends or going out. Babies are very expensive and as a teenager I doubt you will be able to afford a baby. The best thing to do is finish school and get a decent job. You may feel you are ready but when that baby comes it's a whole different story.

Answer 6

I wouldn't say bad but I don't approve. You are still a child yourself when in high school. If a baby is brought into the picture you don't have time to grow and continue to learn about life. I had my one and only child when I was 27 and wished I would have waited a couple of more years just because there was so much more I wanted to do before "settling" down. I don't regret my son one bit, but I would never want a teenager to have to have that responsibility. Wait, grow up first. See the world, college, etc. Then have your family.

Answer 7

It's never "bad" to have a child. Children are a blessing, no matter the circumstances of how they come into the world.

The question really should be, Is it "prudent" to have your first child in high school. And I think the answer tot hat is pretty much categorically NO! There are certain circumstances and cultures where teenage parenting is the norm, but in those cutures, most of high school aged kids who have children are married. At least in the US it is extremely difficult to raise a child, finish school, and then support the child from then on. It just creates undue stress on both the child and the mother.

Wait...you'll have plenty of life left to have a child.

Answer 8

Yes. There are so many reasons why, I don't know where to start.

It'll make getting your highschool diploma much more difficult, it will make college extremely hard, and you'll never be able to support a child without a college degree.

There are only a handful of jobs that pay well that don't require a college degree. Most of them are in construction.

Also, your social life will end. Once you have a child, he/she is your number one priority. Forget going out with the girls.

Have you met a man who is responsible enough to be a father at 18 or younger? Don't expect a lot of help from him either.

Answer 9

This is really a cultural issue. If this is the only time you feel you will be able to have a baby, it might be right for you. When I grew up, even the thought of high schoolers having sex was abhorrent. But in your family, among your relatives, in your neighborhood, if they all expect you to have a child very early in your life, you might be under terrific pressure to "prove" that you are a woman. If having a baby is the only way you can validate yourself at a very early age, you might want to think about the rest of your life, and if it would be better to have children when you are 30, instead of at 15.

Answer 10

i wouldn't say that its bad to have your first child in high school but it would be a bit off a damper on your life. no more parties no more going out when you want because you would have a major responsibility that you can't just not take part in. a child is a lot of work and if your not ready to give up all your playtime and work hard to be a good parent i don't think high school is a good place to have your first child.

Answer 11

i think it would be an uncomfortable birthing place. yes. are you pg? my cousin did that. had a child at 16. she and her husband, (yes, theywere married while in high school because of the baby) were very happy until he died. she has remarried and the child is very happy also. it depends on how well adjusted the teen is and how much suppport you can get from your family. i suggest putting the baby up for adoption if you don't think you can do it. talk it over with all concerned parties. can you rely on them to help? and, maybe most improtantly, what does your heart say? if you are pg, you are already a mom.