I get SO lonely... tips?

Question

I think I may have a problem. When there's no one around to talk to (about 65% of my day) I get so lonely. Even when at home with the family I feel different from them, I feel distant and thus feel even more lonely. I don't have a boyfriend. Even my friends seem far away. I feel alone and so lonely all the time. Is there any way to fix this?

Answer 1

Try to form new relationships
Do activities you enjoy
Do volunteer work
Keep in touch with friends even if it's just talking on the phone or online.
Try new activities/hobbies
Exercise (swim/run/whatever)
Read
Dance around in your underwear
Join some type of online group?
Make youtube blogs. lol

Answer 2

I was lonely when I did move to a other city! Many time I did sleep to not know that I lonely was, but thats not right! Then I cange one thing: A very interessting thing , who smiles find soon friends. Maybe the person right next to you in every place, is lonely too!! Ask peoples, invite peoples... no afraid! A puppy, a cat can help too, but the human is a relacion-creation who needs to talk with peoples! I wish you, that you can go a had to peoples !!
Sometimes is it better to have 2 or 3 realfriends then many cool people who is superficial!
Sing, sometimes and a some people helps to be happy, anyway they are lonely...

Answer 3

Get a dog at the SPCA or other shelter. Take it for walks everyday at least two miles a day. Try to start a hobby, art, church,sewing, anything that you might like. Remember you aren't alone. Many people feel the same and have a hard time making friends. Try to get close to at least one family member. You may find out you aren't all that different. If you are able, get a job even if it's only part time or volunteer at a hospital, senior center, or help someone learn to speak English or read. You make the difference. You can choose to change.

Answer 4

Try some new activities. Join a gym or a club. Stay away from ones you usually go to because you haven't found what you're looking for there. Find someone you can tell anything too, who will respond in kind. Then you will know you've found a friend. If that doesn't work, you need to learn to be happy with you before you can seek happiness from others.

Answer 5

You could e-mail me and let me drive you nutty for a little while or read.Sound dumb? Better than being board.I`m sure there is something that would help. I`m not out here everyday but I am out here in the day time mostly. You could try God. I mean it worked for me.You sound like you need more than just a friend. Ha,you never know check it out, what do you have to lose?

Answer 6

Depression grips with icy claws… Tearing painfully through flesh as it eats steadily towards the heart of it’s victim. Depression goes from a feeling to a way of life as easily as a narcotic becomes a habit. At least it’s something to feel. Always there, to be relied upon in times of trouble. Almost the antithesis of comfort yet comforting in it’s reliability.

Depression does not know joy or contentment as it smothers all. Conquering and pillaging through a persons mind in a ferocious onslaught. It is so very hard to fight and so easy to succumb. It wants all to give in. It wants us all to let it control, destroy. Until a person becomes a shell. Walking flesh going through the motions of daily life.

The habitually depressed are the joyless. Trying so very hard to obtain some feeling of happiness. A small tidbit of glee from this icy grip of reality. Booze helps a little but the bottle runs out. Drugs help a little till the dealer gets busted. Sex works as long as it works. When it’s over, the vice of choice has run its course… it’s there. It’s always there. Snickering.

Peering through the darkness. Lurking in the shadows awaiting a soul to devour. Stalking. Trying so hard to break free. Every kind word helps and every bit, even the tiniest sliver of negativity can send a roller coaster of pain. Outside the wall is up. Strength. Stability. Even honor. Inside emotions and worthless mind banter reign in self destruction.

Peace is more important than understanding. Others don’t have to understand. Just accept. Help. Please help. Oh God help. Or leave us alone. Just don’t make it worse. The depressed are vacuums, sucking in all the good times… Trying to hold on in anticipation for the next one. Hoping for some form of adoration that never comes. Loosing hope…

Love isn’t real. Joy is a farce. Happiness is nothing more than a brief lean on a crutch. (Depression can’t mess with a high junkie.) The roller coaster makes frequent stops. Not sure where the end is. Want to get off. This ride isn’t fun anymore. It hurts. Make it stop. Must have peace, at any cost. Don’t have enough to buy it. Peace. Priceless. Unattainable.

Observing others. Lemmings. Don’t have any REAL problems. Our pain is bigger than anyone else’s. It’s a gargantuan chasm. An ocean. Space. Big. Depression is bigger than we are and that’s why we are powerless against it. Depression goes from a feeling to a way of life as easily as a narcotic becomes a habit. Wishing for the pain to stop.

Answer 7

You need to find activities to get involved in. Or perhaps a pet. People need to socialize and be active. I get lonely alot too but you try to keep yourself occupied with other things that are going on around you. You can still feel alone even with a gf/bf so thats not the problem. You just need to get out and try to enjoy life somewhat whether its finding things to do or getting in touch with nature.

Answer 8

You may suffer from depression. Depression, refer to a state of melancholia, unhappiness or sadness, feeling lonely or to a relatively minor downturn in mood that may last only a few hours or days. This is quite distinct from the medical diagnosis of clinical depression. However, if depressed mood lasts at least two weeks, and is accompanied by other symptoms that interfere with daily living, it may be seen as a symptom of clinical depression. Clinical depression is a serious illness which need to be treated by the doctor.

Answer 9

I have the same problem too. Welcome to the club! What can help is probably you get a job, or join some group, charity (be a volunteer) etc. That way, you can interact with more people around you. Keep your mind occupied, so that you won't think too much. Other than that, work in pet store, not only can you interact with interesting people every day, you get to interact with animals too. Good luck :D

Answer 10

I have felt the same way since i moved away and started a new job, but i went to the local sanctuary and got a kitten. I wanted a puppy because they always love you no matter what, but i can't have a dog where i live, but my cat and i get along great, and he helps fill up some of my time and makes me feel loved.