how do u deal with interfering in-laws??

Question

myself an my partner had an argument i threw him out we made up now everything is fine with us. but his family believes im not good enough for him. (what we were arguing about in the first place) an has done there utmost to split us up. what to do?? need help

its not just me his ex went because of them too. i even asked myself were they right because there so persistant? but my partner assured mr there not he loves me an i love him we have a 1 year old child an want to get married

Answer 1

All you can do is try to win their trust back again. Remember this is their "baby" you 'threw out.' They've probably only heard his side of the story and whether or not it's any of their business, it is what it is.

Answer 2

Twiggie, Parents of any partner always think the person are not what she/he should have, they should always have better which really means someone the wanted to pick for him/her. I don't think this is to personal they are just out to protect their child because most don't see them as adults. If you both love each other and you both have courage, go to the parents and discuss the situation with them asking why you think you are not for him, if he Loves you as you Say, he will defend his position as your partner and state that you are both going to get married, unless your both underage there is nothing they can do about it, send them an invite, if they turn up all is well, if they don't you both still have a life together with your child. Good luck to all of you. WB

Answer 3

Tricky one, first thing you'll need is your partners support, he'll need to be strong enough to tell them that it's his decision who he chooses to live with and if he thinks you're good enough thats all that should matter. Unfortunately some parents will never accept their offsprings choice as no one will ever be good enough. In your case you could try just being continually pleasant no matter the provocation received and hope that eventually they'll come round. If your partner not willing to support you then maybe it;ll never work.

Answer 4

Make sure your boyfriend is not a 'mummy's boy' and wont side with them - thats important. You have to have support from your partner if its as bad as you say it is.

If the relationship is strong you can work things out and the family will learn to accept you and keep their mouths shut in time. If the relationship is weak it wont last and they will win. I speak from experience.

Oh - and if all else fails - tell the inlaws exactly where they can go with their interfering. Dont let them push you around.

Answer 5

You need a 3rd party to explain this situation to your partner.
Anything you say can and will be used against you at a later time.
I suggest you run to a therapist. They will explain how this is very damaging to your own self worth. He needs to know the consequences for allowing such interferences. I hope he is standing up for you.

Answer 6

Move away and make your phone ex-directory.

It will be much more difficult for them to interfere if you're a few hundred miles away.

A few thousand would probably be even better as you could even be in a different time-zone.

Answer 7

do what's right for you and your young family, just try and keep the peace with the rest of the family - there's no joy in arguing with them so just keep clear when you can and hopefully in time they'll realise that you want to be together and are good parents to raise your family together!

Answer 8

You and you partner need to stand up to them and p them off

Answer 9

Stand up to them and prove them wrong. Tell your partner how you feel and avoid contact with them unless absolutely necessary.

Answer 10

Tune them out and dont worry yourself. Your man needs to put his family in their place.