my gf left me a month ago, reason is i got her prengent,i want to take responable of her and take care of her but the baby couldn't be kept due to madical reason, so at the end of the day, we decided to go for abortion, after the abortion she say she need to cool down, so i had no chioce but to let her go, mean while i did do my best to show care and be there for her, give her everything she need, after a while , she came back to me, but she just can't forgive herself and me for killing a life, so she left me again, she say she really need time to cool down and get things over, meanwhile while she get things over, she did try to build up our relationship between use, but i mess up, so now i got to build this relationship up again, she say she still got feeling for me, what should i do, i really want her back and take care of her , please help me
2006-10-10 08:02:49 · 11 answers · asked by allen l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All you really can do is simply tell her that you love her no matter what, and that you care for her happiness and well-being. Tell her that the door is always open, and that whenever she is ready you will be there to welcome her back with open arms. The pain that she is feeling runs very deep, and because you are connected to her through this pain, she may be avoiding you thinking that she can avoid it. Both of you should think about seeing a therapist, because dealing with the after-effects of abortion is a very painful subject, one that needs to be explored with reason and compassion. I am truly sorry for your loss, and I hope that you and your ex-girlfriend work things out, but really you need to let her have her space and when she needs you she will come to you.
*To those who responded so hatefully to this guy: talk about immature. This guy is asking for sincere help, and all ya'll can do is ridicule him because maybe his spelling and grammar aren't perfect. Well, no one is perfect, so at least show some respect instead of acting like 10 year-olds.*
2006-10-10 08:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by rmdndangerous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go until she knows what she wants. She wants and clearly needs some time and space. As much as you want to be with her, she has to feel the same way. An abortion can take a heavy toll on a woman, it's not an easy decision to make and it's a decision that she has to live with for her entire life. If your GF loves you and does want to be with you, give her time. It's too early right now. Support her and believe in her, but give her time to think about everything or you might push her away for good.
2006-10-10 15:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by coolguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you need to learn to type better. Sounds like you're pretty young, so maybe the immaturity thing has a big factor in this. If you guys aren't ready to take on a baby financially and provide for the child, then it's going to take a while for her to get over that. That was a huge decision and I couldn't imagine what she's going through. Support her without being too forward and pushy.
2006-10-10 15:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a women to kill her young off she will never forgive herself. Just be patient and understanding. That is all you can do now. Your whole situation is unfortunate if you really want her back be as kind and patient and caring as you can. If she really wants to be with you she will come back. Good luck.
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2006-10-10 15:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by alla a 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
GOD!! WHAT ARE THEY LEARNING IN SCHOOLS?
gf=girl friend.
i=I
prengent=pregnant.
madical=medical.
chioce=choice.
The truth? You don't want a wife!! "but i mess up". That's says that you got another girl friend!!! Right?
i really want her back. Naw!! You don't want her back!
please help me'? Who, how, when???
2006-10-10 15:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by alfonso 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to stick a fork in them
she s done baby
2006-10-10 15:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs some time and space.
2006-10-10 15:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Cindi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk things over with her
2006-10-10 15:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about you get a education, and a rubber
2006-10-10 15:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋