Spanking a child for hitting?

Question

I have tried to discipline my 2 year old daughter by slapping her hand or spanking a few times and she decided to hit me back. Yet, even after I wrote this, I recieved the following advice "First of all, you should never allow your child to hit you. that is definite cause for you to toss her over your lap and hit her butt." Now, could someone please explain to me how spanking (which is hitting) is going to teach a child not to hit?

For all those advocating spanking or the slap on the hand, my child had NEVER hit me before I tried this form of discipline. Please think about that!!

Answer 1

I just read in one of my parenting magazines (sorry, can't remember which one) that you should not discipline a child under the age of 2 by hitting or a time out because they don't understand the punishment. Since your child is just 2, then it still could be too early to hit. Before I had read this, my husband and I had tried giving our daughter a little slap on the hand when she touched something she shouldn't have (meaning something that could potentially harm her). However, we stopped when she started hitting back. We believe she thought we were playing a game with her. The article I read recommended just removing the child from the situation and telling them no. Good luck!

Answer 2

I think she may have picked up the hitting from you slapping her on the hand. Every child will try their limitations, but spanking is dicipline and her hitting is acting out. Just a firm swat on the rear once should let her know you mean business, but it was a big mistake to start slapping her on the hand. That is probably why she hits, not because you spanked her. Spanking is new so she wants to try it to see if she can get a reaction. If you really think spanking is hurting more than helping, next time she tries to swat at you grab her hand firmly, but not roughly, and tell her not to hit and that hitting hurts and put her in a time out. Either way she has to know hitting isn't appropriate. And you must know that some people still will choose spanking and that it isn't wrong.

Answer 3

I think what works for some may not work for all. I have done both, hit and time out/lecture. For my oldest daughter it was the offense of being slapped back every time she hit that got the point across that hitting hurts and if I don't like it or want to be hit then I shouldn't either. (We tried it both ways, we started out as non-spankers, and she changed our minds.)But, for my younger two, just the stern tone of my voice and my anger was enough to prevent them. Like someone else mentioned, I would grab/hold the offending hand, none to gently I might add, and let them know what they did wrong and asked if I should be able to hit, so they would know how it felt. Of course the answer was no. The key is 1) consistency and 2) letting them know in no uncertain terms they are not allowed to hit their parents or anyone, and then again 3) is consistency. Every single time, and not screaming or getting excited, but in a lower, more authoritative way.

Answer 4

For a very young child you must emphasize the offending part. If a hand hit, the had is emphasized in the punishment. It gets the point across. That being said, you do not 'need' to spank, hit, slap, or whatever word you want to use, to get this point across.

Take her hand in yours and hold it to you or between your hands and explain in adult terms why it is no right to hit. Most of the words will be totally lost on her. The stern voice and the holding of her had will not. Hold it until you are both calmer.

Good luck.

BTW, I spanked my daughter and felt guilty and wrong and learned this from another. We are both happier. She is 6 now and is great. No damage.

Answer 5

It's not going to teach the child anything but to hit more. You are only reinforcing her bad behavior by doing what she is doing. In cases such as this, your child is imitating you. Try other discipline measures such as Time Out that does not involve physical contact. Also, tell her no when she hits you and then put her in Time Out. No, you shouldn't let her hit you but she cannot learn it is not ok if you hit/spank her.

Once, she is older, you can take more things away, but at 2, Time out is probably the best option.

Answer 6

i think of she would have picked up the hitting from you slapping her on the hand. each and every newborn will try their obstacles, yet spanking is dicipline and her hitting is performing out. purely a company swat on the rear as quickly as ought to enable her understand you recommend business enterprise, in spite of the fact that it replaced right into a huge mistake to start up slapping her on the hand. it particularly is in all possibility why she hits, not on account which you spanked her. Spanking is new so she needs to purpose it to ascertain if she would be ready to get a reaction. in case you particularly think of spanking is hurting extra desirable than helping, next time she tries to swat at you grab her hand firmly, yet not extra or less, and tell her to not hit and that hitting hurts and placed her in an afternoon out. the two way she has to renowned hitting isn't suited. and you ought to renowned that some human beings nevertheless will pick spanking and that it is not incorrect.

Answer 7

Your not teaching anything to your child by hitting. You are the one to set an example. Is that how you want to teach your child? Doesnt make any kind of sense!! Try time out and taking things away that they like to play with. Try that!! Remember your suppose to set an example!!!

Answer 8

Spanked for hitting?Can you say OXYMORONE?The worst thing in the world for a 2 year old being punnished is sitting in time out where nobody can pay attention to her for set amount of time.

Answer 9

I'm a believer in spanking, but I don't spank my child when I'm teaching him not to hit. That has never made sense to me and i don't understand other people who think it's logical to spank a child for hitting. If my child hit me after I spanked him, or any time really, he would go straight to his bed for time out. No toys or pillows on the bed either. He would sit on his bed and have nothing to do. Like I said, I'm a firm believer in spanking, but there are other punishment and discipline techniques that work just as well if you are consistent. Consistency and your child knowing that you mean what you say are key!

Answer 10

Maybe hitting is not the answer. she see you hitting her for something her did. and then if you tell her hitting is bad then she is going to want to know why do you hit her. my 2 year old son loved to hit other kids for doing something bad to him. i told him why hitting was bad and if he did it again he would be on his own like a time out. little kids can't stand to be in a room were there is no toys no t.v and no other living thing.