She says she loves me & want to rebuild faith in me, but keeps me away from my friends by trying to be around me always. She thinks a guy & girl can never be friends. Everytime I get social with someone (even my family members!) she feels she is losing me, in the sense that I find someone else interesting. I get frustrated as she doubts my intentions & questions me too much. Her suspiciousness in every action of mine gets us fighting and she feels sorry later. But this cycle has been happening twice every week since last 1.5 yrs. I tried ending this relationship but she threatned to kill herself as she has nobody else in her life, etc. (she even injured her wrist once). If we fight, she stops eating food & medicine (for Psoriasis). I feel like I am stuck as I certainly do not want her to harm herself but also I cannot live emotionally abused. Not sue if I love her or I have sympathy for her. Not sure if she loves me or considers me as a support system for her life. Not sure what to do
2006-10-10 07:44:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
take her to get some counseling, therapy.
she needs to fix herslef before she can be a good girlfriend or wife to ANYONE, much less you. tell her, as a friend, u want to help her, and the more independent and confident and HAPPY/Positive she is, the more u can figure out if you both are Good for each other...but right now, because of your cheating issue and because of her suicidal tendencies, u feel that the relationship is less about Love than it is about Hurting each other.
go with her to talk to someone professional.. see if u can figure things out and help her change to become more Positive in general... the stronger she is, the more likely she can decide for herself if u are good for her...and the stronger she is, the more likely she can stand on her own two feet w/o you. good luck
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2006-10-10 14:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st u have 2 decide whether u love her frm the bottom of ur heart or not.If u love her then proceed.......
if u dont love her, thn just predict as if u r a bad guy, drink some beer and predict as if u r out of ctrl.
misbehave in front of her and also make her frnds believe u r not the right one 4 her.
2006-10-10 15:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by bublu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her support system in a sense that she put her trust in you and you broke it. However, you have to realize what caused this. Reassure her that its not going to happen again. And really mean it. Its like prove your love or care for her all over again.
2006-10-10 14:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by alphasweet06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
got you! m surprised?? this is the same case of mine.through which i m going till now.only the difference is that its a girl in your case and its a boy in my case.i m really really surprised.each and every word of yours match with my life also.so dear its very easy to say not to worry.but this kind of thing make a lot of tensions in life.even you can't go,chat,make frnds in this case.everytime we have to give proof to our partners that what we r doing?,where we r?,who is with us?.sometimes it embarrased us to have this kind of relation.there is lack of trust and over possessiveness in our relations.but now i realise that its not love i m compromising with my life.you know i just talk him daily just for his sake.even i don't meet him.everyday we get fight on these daily issues.friend just let it be on god.it depends on our luck or kismat.nobody can solve this problem on this site.because its ongoing process you can't stop it.your girl love u so much she can't live without you.if you try to explain her she will not get it bcoz she is in love with you madly and love it is blind.so let it be on god.i can understand your problem better because i m also going through this.i have also asked the same question before on this site and got many answers and even applied on it but in vain.sorry if i say anything wrong but i got someone who have the same problem thats why i m writing so lengthy,sorry for anything i said wrong.
2006-10-10 16:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by pari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of known better than to have a "casual date" as you put it...in your girls eyes it's still a date, with another women...bad move, i think you got a lot of grovelling to do...it may be a while before she trusts you again.
2006-10-10 14:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shoud tell her ur feelings about being emotionally abused. n try to understand ur feelings for her.
if this does not work out then give her the taste of her own medicine. behave the way she does wid u. dont let her be social. threaten her about hurting yourself. maybe she will realise.........
2006-10-11 04:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by renu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude you cheated on her, there is no casual dating others when your in a relationship. you just have to give her time and show her that you only want her. stay away from other girls for the moment even if their just friends.
2006-10-10 14:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by beth_6953 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and explain to her that you have the right to talk to women as she has the right to speak to other men and if she can not handle then you are going to have to move on because the relationship is causing you to much stress.
2006-10-10 14:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey wake up...she is abusing you...it will never work out between u2 i would just leave her and not talk with her on the phone for atleast a month...then work thinkgs out to be friends if you want to but you need to leave.....if she kills herself oh well...its not your fault tell her to grow up.
2006-10-10 14:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by camden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋