A couple weeks ago I met this really great drummer who was really nice and was so kind. A couple days after meeting him I met a guy who happened to really like me. The thing is I don't like him and I like the drummer. I don't want to hurt the guy's feelings what should I do? I can easily get in touch with the drummer but I don't want the guy to be mad at me for it.
2006-10-10 07:41:59 · 16 answers · asked by Nic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Has the drummer contacted you, pursued you, shown any romantic interest? If not, leave it alone you don't want to become a groupie. Ask yourself if your interest in the drummer isn't because of what he does. (I know most consider musicians sexy!!!!!!!!)
As for the other guy I say date him and keep him in your rotation. There is nothing wrong with dating different people before making a choice. As long as you are not exclusive with any of them and having sex.
2006-10-10 07:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Nija 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest. There's nothing worse than leading someone on... tell the guy who likes you that you think he's a good guy but you just don't feel the same way. Yes, it will hurt him, but that is better than not saying anything. Go for the drummer if you really like him.
2006-10-10 14:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by Dubs82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it in touch with the drummer I mean if he is as nice as you say he is then he shouldn't mind and once you call him he will have your number so he can call you if he sounds irritated then don't call him anymore. As far as the other guy don't worry about hurting his feelings that can get you into a situation you don't want to be in trust me I know.
2006-10-10 14:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you what you want but do it nicely. Go for the drummer is you like him more. Its not fair if youre going out with the other guy who you dont even like
2006-10-10 14:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try the diplomatical way: tell him that he is nice and all, but that he is just not your type and that he should find a girl who appreciates his real value, it's called ditching&praising method ;)
if you flatter him a little he won't feel so ofenced by your refusal
good luck with the drummer
2006-10-10 14:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by alexia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice and kind to the guy who likes you, and tell him the magic just isn't there, or some other dumb thing.
You never know, you might change your mind sometime--don't burn your bridges, but don't deal with someone you don't want.
If there is someone you DO like, let him know without throwing yourself in his lap. Let him come to you-so you know he is interested in YOU, too. Some guys will just act like they like you to get you horizontal, and then dump you.
Make him work for it, he'll respect you. I know it is corney, but boys are corney--even if they swear otherwise.
Good luck. How are your grades? That's where your future is.
2006-10-10 14:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't like him you don't like him!
SO go for the drummer! Just do it tactfully!
You won't hurt his feelings if you tell him nicely that you don't like him!
2006-10-10 14:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the drummer. the other guy will get over it.
2006-10-10 14:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by howdy19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work at one thing at a time. Multi-tasking was not meant for the Love section of life
2006-10-10 14:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by DenMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gal one thing i have learned is that you should always do what your heart wants. just be honest with the guy you dont like and tell him that you are not really interested in him, tell him the truth and dont beat around the bush, just be honest ok..be real..if he he really likes you he will be grateful for your honesty..you will in the process being honest to youirself..
2006-10-10 14:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by chris pamela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋