Would you want a diamond for an engagement ring?

Question

My wife didn't want one. She liked the color of a tanzanite better.

If you don't want a diamond, why? Color? Cost? The terrible conditions the diamond market causes in Africa? The fact that it isn't really that rare? The fact that they don't really last forever?

If you do want a dimond, is it just for traditions sake? Do you like the clearness of a diamond? The fact that it costs more?

Answer 1

Hello!

My engagement ring isn't a diamond. It isn't even silver or gold. It doesn't even fit on my left ring finger. There is a very good chance that my engagement ring is just a peice of hardware that fell off of a bed while moving. Dispite all of that, my engagement ring is my favorite peice of jewlery and I love it and everything it stands for.

An engagement ring is about more than just being an expensive peice of jewlery. It is about more than traditions. It isn't about showing your love through money. An engagement ring is about a promise that is made between two people and the engagement ring is a symbol of the promise both people made and intend to keep for the rest of their lives. I love my engagement ring and it is very characteristic of me and my fiance. It is something that I find beautiful.

In the end, it doesn't matter what the ring looks like. What does matter is that the ring makes her happy and is something she will find beautiful, wether that means anything you give, a 12 karat diamond, or a quartz and silver ring.

Hope I helped you.


~~Cari

Answer 2

I have several diamond rings. My mother in law has a huge 1 1/2 carat yellow diamond that belonged to her mother that she originally was going to give my hubby to propose but then she backed out and is now saving it for our daughter. There is such a thing as colored diamonds other than clear or yellow. I had no idea that blue diamonds existed until my hubby bought one on ebay. It's very pretty it's almost like a greenish blue, and the lady at Kay's Jewlers who's supposed to be a certified diamontologist didn't know it was a diamond. She tried to say it was a sapphire or turqoise until she got the laser out and tested it. I like diamonds just b/c of tradition I guess, but I have other stones too.

Answer 3

It really depends on the style of the ring. Yes, diamonds are the tradition, but this is 2006. I would first find a style that I liked, I don't like the plain gold with a single diamond in the middle. Then, I would figure out what metal, it doesn't have to be gold all the time either, then I would figure out what stone would go best with it.

Answer 4

I want a diamond...I'm not picky about the size (as long as the setting doesn't totally consume it). I've always liked diamonds. Maybe it's because I'm an April baby making diamonds my birthstone. And too, there is some tradition there as well. And I originally was not planning to be very traditional when/if I got married - that was going to be one of the few traditional things for me. Now, however, looks like it's going to be a total traditional thing - church and all.

Answer 5

I was never a huge fan of diamonds, but it's different with an engagement and wedding ring. Since most women wear them all the time, diamonds are clear so they go with everything you wear. That's one reason. The other, I guess, is tradition and that they are the hardest substance on earth. It's that "idea" that makes it go with the marriage. Actually, I'm a big fan of coloured gems, so am slowly getting a collection of those in different jewellery.

Answer 6

Each person is different. Some women only want diamonds, but others are happy with other gems for their engagment rings. My fiance bought me a 1K citrine engagment ring. That stone holds special meaning for us. Plus, it goes with his grandmother's wedding band. In instances like that, then I don't see why it's not appropriate to give another gem. My father also gave my mom an engagement ring that had saphires in it. If she liked the color of tanzanite better, then why not give her what she wants. I mean, she's the one that has to wear it and she'll know that it comes from your heart because you gave her something that she wanted and loved.

Answer 7

I wouldn't want a diamond, even though they're the traditional stone for engagement rings. Some of us like other stones better or an antique ring. Has nothing to do with the reasons you mentioned, just a matter of personal taste.

Answer 8

My fiance and I looked at many different rings. From a plain band, to a diamond solitaire... We even considered pearls, emeralds, and rubies. In the end, it was a diamond 3 stone ring I fell in love with. I think some women absolutely want the diamond ring, other's don't care either way, and some don't even care if they have a ring at all! I think in my case, it was tradition, and I view it as a gift from my fiance... a symbol of our love and commitment to each other.

Answer 9

I wanted a diamond but I did not ask for one, fiance picked it out.

I love colored stones and prefer them. But for the engagement ring, I wanted a diamond. It's traditional and beautiful! He chose stones with amazing clarity and it blows me away every time it shines in the light! And it's not some HUGE ring, but the stones are lovely and perfectly sized for me and my finger :)

I would have been happy with a ring from a bubble gum machine if it meant he was proposing, though.

Answer 10

My husband bought me an "Ideal Cut Diamond" for my engagement ring. When we went back to the jewelry store, they gave me the paperwork on it and he got me a matching solitare necklace and earrings in the same cut. It is the best cut and clarity you can get...they trie teaching me what all the numbers and letters mean, but he understands it better. And for our last anniversary...he got me a pink diamond.......I also have Tanzanite and think they are beautiful.