My Mom and Dad are fighting over me and i cant take it!!!My mom wants me to live with her and my dad want me to live with him!I couldnt EVER pick over them and im scared if i pick one of them over the other someones feelings will get hurt..i kind of would rather move with my dad but i still love my mom..HELP!
2006-10-10 07:32:03 · 10 answers · asked by Abby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm assuming that you are old enough to legally be allowed to make this decision?
Get your folks in a room together and talk about this. They need to realize that their desire to hurt each other is hurting you. It may help to get another neutral and trusted adult in on the conversation.
Which ever one you pick, tell the other that it doesn't mean that you love them any less, you just feel that living with the other would be better for now. Do not list your reasons. You do not have to justify your decision to them when they are behaving so poorly. It will just create more arguments.
I'm sorry, but since your parents are not being adults about this, you will end up hurting the feelings of one of them. Just remember it is not your fault, they will still love you, and they'll get over it.
Remind them that you are stuck in the middle of their fight, and it's not fair to make you choose sides.
Good luck.
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2006-10-10 07:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you'd rather live with your dad, then speak up. You're not choosing one parent over another - I'm sure you love them both. It also isn't fair that they're fighting over you instead of asking you what you want. Tell them what you think! Good luck!
2006-10-10 07:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jemma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go half and half, then you can spend time with both, if that doesn't work, draw a line and pick out the pro's and con's for both. Who would be easier to live with in the long run. Goodluck! And don't worry, they'll still love you =)
2006-10-10 07:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is best, I chose my dad and I never regreted it. Your mom will understand. You could always live with both. It really is up to you to decide. Good Luck!!
2006-10-10 07:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by fatiima 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes mothers are very forgiving. Just give her the reasons you want to live with your dad. And let her know it's not because you love her less.
2006-10-10 07:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing for you to do would be to sit your parents down together and explain to them that they are pressuring you and you feel like if you choose either of them, the other will think that you dont love them. don't be afraid to cry in front of them so that they can really see how hurt you are by their actions.... goodluck
2006-10-10 07:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think would make you happy or work out a way where you can spend equal time with both parents.
2006-10-10 07:34:33 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can go to your dad for a 4days and then with your mom3days so you spend time with both of them.but first tell them how you feel when they fight over you
2006-10-10 07:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by ♥kristin♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go live with your dad he's way cooler! mom will get over it.
2006-10-10 07:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by Gym 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she'll get over it or she has a serious problem
2006-10-10 07:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋