my 3 year old will not sleep any ideas?

Question

he cries and screams and tells us too shut up and never wants too sleep at all at night.

Answer 1

Warm bath with some lavender scented bubble bath, warm milk and a story, ask if he/she is worried about anything e.g. the dark. Make sure he/she is active enough during the day to be tired out.

Answer 2

I am not hearing how you are reacting to his behavior but this may help. Stay calm with your answer and don't allow him to say shut up or yell without a consequence. Just take a toy away from his room, return it later when he does something good. Stay in the room with him for a few minutes. This time should lessen each day until he is comfortable with you just 'tucking' him in and maybe talking about a little something, like what he wants to dream of. I really liked the idea that he may be frightened so soothe him. He does seem agitated.

Before the bedtime your house should be quieter and darker. If you are a party animal(my wife and I are) then wait for a while. Have your ruckus later behind a closed door.

Good luck and ignore those that say to give him drugs. Not a good start for a kid because you and he will become dependent upon that and not a natural thing.

It is all in the patterns we set for our children. It took about 3 months for mine to switch to no naps so have fun!

Answer 3

I would suggest the following. Make sure you have a bedtime routine and stick to it. Always return the child to their bed in spite of all they say or do. Always respond in a calm manner (even if you go in the bathroom and scream into a towel later). Have a schedule for when bedtime is and begin to talk about it such as first we do this , then this and then it's time for bed. But also have a schedule for wake up. Don't let your child sleep in in the morning just because it is easier. And sometimes skipping the nap make them over stimulated and they can not sleep. Make a bedtime book and read it every day. the book should follow your bedtime routine. Also, think about bedtime as a time of seperation for your child. If there are new ;things going on or new people, this will hieghten your child's anxiety about seperation from you. Lastly, tell your child you know they do not want to go to bed,but that's just the way it is.

Answer 4

Is he getting enough exercise during the day? Outdoor physical activity tires my child out. Also make sure he doesn't nap too much or too close to bed time. No caffiene or sugar too close to bed time. Kids like routine. Try to get in a routine of taking a bath/shower, maybe some reading and then bedtime.
Good Luck !!

Answer 5

What time is the child going to bed? Is the child getting a nap during the day? The child might be going to bed to early for him/her, not all kids require 8-12 hours of sleep. If the child is getting a nap during the day eliminate the nap so that when bed time rolls around the child will be tired.

Answer 6

When you are really tired of it you will follow through with making them stay in their bed until they fall asleep. You have not followed your Doctors orders, or they would be. You are giving in or staying up also or putting them in bed with you.How long are the afternoon naps? Not long or if any their is no reason for him/her to not sleep all night. If they are taking long naps because of being up not sleeping or going to sleep to late then stop that cut off that nap.If the child goes to daycare then you have to make them go to bed and stay. Daycare won't cut off naps they have a rountine,and don't want to deal with a cranky child. They look forward to the nap.

Answer 7

ok first off never let them sleep with you from start.
if you already started then you need to do this.
1. bring them back to their room let them sleep in their bed.
2. have a night light on at all time.
3. stay with them for the first few nights until they fall asleep.
4. have a baby monitor in their room with two way talk so if they start crying just speak into it and normally it will get them back to sleep.

Answer 8

hiya
my little girl is the same she is 4 and she doesn't fall asleep intill around 1am i got her a gloworm it sings, tells story's,lights up and rhymes its very good i give it to her yesterday and its working she is in bed now with her night light off sucking her thumb listening to it falling asleep its great i hope it will last :)
with my son i got him a touch from Avon its a Thomas the tank and when you shine it on the wall its a shadow of a train he has stayed in bed now for a month that was the best buy :0)

Answer 9

My 4 yr old will not sleep in her own room let alone sleep through the night. I have tried everything the pediatrician said and I haven't had any luck...all I can say is one day my friend, one day!

Answer 10

that sounds like my daughter at night when she is really sleepy but wont go to bed.i had to quit letting her take naps durning the day so she will go to bed at a decent time(between 9-11pm) but she used to make her stay awake until 3 or 4am cause she was afraid that she would miss something and also her naps was making her go to bed late at night.yes she even told me to shut up and that she aint going to bed also.but since she dont take naps no more she usually gets sleepy around 8 pm so i give her a shower and then turn the tv to nickoloden and she watches cartoons and falls alsleep with out knowing it.watching tv calms my daughter down at night cause she knows that its not play time no more and if she starts her screaming and telling me to shut up fits she knows that she gets a spanking so she doesnt do that no more.but the tv thing she just thinks that "hey i dont have to go to sleep cause i get to watch tv" so she falls alsleep cause im not forcing her to lay down and close her eyes in slience(she hates when someone does that to her cause she knows that "she has to go to bed when someone tells her to instead of her standards".she thinks watching tv is something she is in control of instead of me thats why its easier for her to go to bed now.but if no naps dont work try car rides to clam your 3 yr old down thats what we would have to do every night when she wouldnt go to bed til 3, or 4 am.she'll fall alsleep in the car and then we put her in bed alsleep.also dont give your 3 yr old no sweets at least 2 hours before you would like him to go alsleep or any caffene that will help to