I have been with a 26 year old for a long time. I love him a lot and he treats me with respect and he makes me happy. My parents know him and we have had a huge trial because he lied and said he was 21 to be with me. My parents said that if they find out that I get contact with him in any way that they will call the police. I turn 18 in Dcember and it is now October. But what should I do? I really miss him.
2006-10-10 07:18:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You still live in your parents home and are under 18, you must live by their rules. If he loves you and you love him then 2 months is not long to wait and then you can be with him. Remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder. If you are meant to be together, then you will be.
2006-10-10 07:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by nevada nomad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, I have found in my experiences that age really doesn't matter when it comes to love. But there is one thing that parents don't understand.......To have sex with a minor is the crime, not dating you. As long as you two haven't been intimate, there has been no crime. Hence, no grounds to call the police. And depending on where you live in the world, the age of consent differs. I am in Canada, and where I live the legal age of consent is 16. Therefore, if I were 16, it really wouldn't matter the age of the man that I date or be intimate with. ( But I am 22, just used that as an example) It is really not wise to go against your parents wishes BUT, I think you really need to talk with them, if it is bothering you this much. And if he is truly as sweet and respectful of you, and makes you happy, that is what your parents should be concerned with. You seem to be a smart girl, and care about your parents wishes and love this guy very much. Is there an age difference between your parents....?? If there is, use that as defence. As far as I am concerned you are at an age where you can begin to make your own choices. You are not a child. If you were younger I would not have given you this type of advice. But you are nearly 18. Just be smart, it will all work out.
** Your boyfriend probably shouldn't have lied about his age, but considering the issue, I doubt it wouldn't helped anyways.
2006-10-10 07:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having sex w/ him STOP...he could go to jail and would if your parents (or any other reasonable adult) finds out about it. If you are going to be 18 in Dec.....CHILL OUT...2 months.....Please....think of the poor women (or men) whose spouse is gone away in the military. If he loves you he will be a good boy...work and do what he needs to to be w/ you next year...and by the way...what does a 26 yr old MAN...see in a 17 year old child...HMMM....I think some easy...well fill in the blank here....your standards and insights are not as keen as women his own age and you think you are being older than you are by allowing him to take advantage of your naivety
It doesn't matter why it is not legal....it is just not legal...you don't get to vote on it and neither do WE....so live with it or suffer the consequences (or watch him suffer them)
Good luck and God Bless
2006-10-10 07:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by Cadman1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have been with him in the first place. It's nice that he's been treating you well, but I don't get the attraction. As a 20 year old, I wouldn't want to date a 17 year old. What's wrong with him that he's not telling you or waiting to unlease.
He's going WAY out of his way to find someone to be with. If he really loves you, then great, I wish you two the best, but I'd be worried about "why is he really with me?"
To your parents, you've got to tell them. That's plain and simple, you've been lieing to them for how long? You need to let the truth come out before they end up hating you or pushing you out of their lives.
2006-10-10 07:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you are 18 they will call the police and they will arrest him especially if you have had sexual contact with him. If you are mature about this you will realize that if you have spend so much time with him and you had love and respect on both sides then a few months isn't much compared to how much time a jail sentence would cost you.
2006-10-10 07:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe! You are "jail bait". The dude you are seeing is a nut for taking the chance of going to the gray-bar hotel if your parents blow the whistle on him to the local cops. They don't need to prove anything, anymore, it seems like.
In some places all they need do is "drop a dime on him", and he is gone. Do you really want to hook up with someone who is no smarter than that? Besides, he already lied about his age to your parents, do you want to spend your life with a liar?
2006-10-10 07:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by hillbilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you do not have faith it, yet there's a extensive distinction between 26 and 17/18/19/20/21 etc. would desire to be your father and mom attempt to maintain you from a infantile and/or controlling jerk/pervert/loser. i think of a grown guy-- would desire to admire your father and mom. A grown lady would desire to admire her father and mom. they may be incorrect, yet once you're sneaking around and mendacity--how grown up/suitable are you? you will desire to be doing youthful lady issues, not sneaking around to be with a guy.--issues like, interpreting for assessments, making plans on which college to bypass to, getting tickets for a visit to Africa, making plans your destiny--not with this loser, yet YOUR destiny--you decide directly to be a legal professional? A vet? A dancer? A nurse? Or this guy's female chum, until eventually some 15 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old flits by utilising? Dumping yoru destiny and potential on absolutely everyone seems to be a pretend wish. you are able to't get away YOU. you're relatively all you have in the international-something is a LIE! In below 2 months you are able to proceed to make a screw up something of your existence. won't be in a position to you wait ?? in case you will desire to be sure him--then look ahead to 2 months. you may desire to maintain him out of penal complex. you're that mature are not you? HE would desire to be working in the different direction yet interestingly has no experience, the two. You sound like a ideal tournament. Does he have a large pastime? Do YOU? Has he comprehensive college? have you ever? Is he paying little one help for different little ladies he has knocked up and deserted? Has he been married earlier? Why not? Why does a grown guy think of a intense college lady is his omit dazzling? Are grown up females too challenging to preserve? What he has been doing with you "for a lengthy time" is observed as statutory rape-and known by utilising some to be little one abuse, and little one sexual attack. not purely does he not admire your father and mom yet in addition he does not admire the regulation or you-large seize!! He would ALREADY be in penal complex, in case you have been my little one.
2016-12-16 05:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
26 is kind of old. Just think of it this way .. when he turns 30, you'll be the legal drinking age. I'd find someone you're own age and have fun..
2006-10-10 07:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really love him then you need to do what you feel like you should i know what you mean i'm in the same thing you are except 16 and 27 and i won't be 17 till next year so i sort of know what who you feel just follow your heart i am and its going right
2006-10-10 07:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by sapphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would either a) let it go, or b) wait until you're 18 and get ahold of him. if you're not sleeping with him, your parents can't do a whole lot. and if this guy loves you, he'll wait until you're 18.
2006-10-10 07:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋