My son started going to sleep by himself thanks to the Ferber Method when he was about 8 months old. I was able to put him to bed, and he would play or talk to himself until he fell asleep. Now he is 11 months old and about a month ago he started wailing when I put him to bed and walked out of the room. He has NEVER slept all night. I do not feed him during the night anymore, but I do have to get up, get him out of bed and rock him back to sleep because my 4 year old daughters room is right beside his. I cant have both of them up during the night. Some nights he refuses to go back to sleep and I am up with him for hours on end. WHAT CAN I DO. I am desparate for a decent nights sleep. PLEASE HELP!! He only takes one nap during the day in the mornings for about 2 hours. He wakes about 7-7:30 and naps from 10-10:30 to 12-12:30. So I know it is not because he sleeps too much during the day.
2006-10-10 07:15:03 · 8 answers · asked by Amber L 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Is he eating enough before bedtime?
If so then he is used to you rocking him to sleep and he knows that you will sit with him until he sleeps.
I suggest that your daughter visits a family friend (grandmother?) for 2 nights while you sleep train your child. Sit with him in his room but do not rock him to sleep. It is very hard on a mother but you need sleep to be a good mother and to stay sane.
It would be wise to take him for a check-up at the dr. just to make sure everything is ok before taking any action
2006-10-10 07:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by south 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me.
I think you should put the nap later in the day, maybe 1, and his bedtime should be around 7. Make sure hes eating enough solid foods and getting those calories from food and taking less calories from milk. Maybe a blanket or crib bumper is disturbing him during his sleep and waking him up. I put soft sleepy music in my daughters room at bedtime and the cd stays on repeat and if she wakes up in the night she falls back asleep to it.
There are also the nights that are few and far inbetween that she does wake up, these are bound to happen. I find that by getting to her quick I minimize how awake she gets, I never turn on a light, I barely talk to her, if anything I just say shhh. Anything that could stimulate her might wake her up more meaning shed stay awake longer. I find that if I sit on the floor and hold her quietly and make her feel calm, she'll close her eyes and then a few minutes like that go by and I put her gently into her crib and sit back down right beside it and touch her through it. She calms down again and closes her eyes but any little move might wake her up so I slowly shift away. She sometimes opens her eyes and I stop and she sees Im still there but by the time I get to the door shes asleep, no one else in the house was woken up, and maybe 15 mins have gone by but thats better than an hour. Maybe keep a sippy cup with water in it for him to sip on if he wakes up, make sure his room is warm enough and his clothes fit him well.
Hopefully something I suggested will help. Good luck
2006-10-10 09:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Candy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had to change our routine a bit when my son did the same thing. He ate a little bit of a later dinner, we played a bit harder in the evening then in the afternoon, and then I would take him in for a bath a little before I wanted him in bed. Made sure he had plenty of toys to play with so he could wear himself down more. After the bath, I would diaper him and use Johnson & Johnson's Soothin lotion on him to give him a little bit of a massage. He would start to get sleepy, I would dress him, then finish with a massage to the feet, arms and hands. He would get put down, still awake but very sleepy, and with in minutes would be out like a light for the night.
2006-10-10 10:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by nanners040477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter has in basic terms grew to become a million and she or he has by no potential been the international's longest sleeper! She now eats 3 complete food an afternoon and has a bottle of cow's milk first concern and final concern. i could try putting him onto a perfect weight loss software of three significant food an afternoon, and in line with risk a mid afternoon snack of raisins if he's hungry. he's a becoming boy and needs 3 food an afternoon. It feels like he may be going to mattress hungry.
2016-10-02 04:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by kroner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him out of the crib. He needs to learn how to put himself to sleep. Give him a bottle with cereal before bed so his stomach is full and stays full. If he still gets up, then walk in his room and gently "sshh" him back to sleep. Don't pick him up or rock him. He needs to learn how to put himself to sleep and if he's on your lap he'll never learn.
2006-10-10 07:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are going to have to leave him and let him cry. Do like the Nanny does and go in once to put him to sleep once (soothe him, kiss him and say good night), then just let him be is he's up.
You should start on a Friday night and that will give you 2 days head start so it won;t disturb your daughter before pre school on Monday.
good luck
2006-10-10 07:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what I would do is try to play him out and then give him something to eat , then a nice warm bath ,put him to bed a tad later then normal.Hopefully that will get him to sleep the night.
2006-10-10 07:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by Twiggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to say (like my own son) he has almost gotten into a routine to wake up......you might have to try the tuff love technique. i don't!! my son is 14mo and every nite between 10 and 11pm he wakes up... he goes back to sleep though......if your son likes to get up and stay up what you have to do is nothing and i mean it ..... no bright lights, no tv, no playing, no talking, just gentle words to settle him back into slumber! good luck
2006-10-10 10:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lori C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋