Do ex bf's come back usually or is it rare? And if so, how often after a breakup and under what conditions. I know it's a variable answer, but I wanted to hear the diff experiences.
I'm trying to see when it's ok to talk to my ex again
2006-10-10 07:08:32 · 18 answers · asked by coochie1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont know
its up to faith i guess
perhaps bumping into each other is one way or the second
is that someone contacts the other person
but theres no timetable it could happen 3 months 6 months
1 year 2 years etc
good luck
2006-10-10 07:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't give you a definitive answer because a lot depends on your circumstances with your ex - eg how long ago you broke up with him, who did the breaking (and why), whether or not one of you still wants the other back, et cetera.
However in general it is fairly rare for a relationship to come back together once it has broken up, regardless of the reasons behind the breakup. Friendship is occasionally possible to salvage however, though received wisdom states that you have to have been friends before you were lovers and have let some time and other partner(s) go by before this is possible.
As to whether or not you should speak to your ex boyfreind again, there is no reason why you shouldn't try for friendship that's what you want, but unless all the following statements are true then I would advise against it because you will get hurt.
1) You definitely do not want him back as a lover.
2) He definitely does not want you back as a lover.
3) You have both had at least one partner each since each other.
4) At least a year has gone by.
5) You were friends before you were lovers.
If any of these statements are false, then leave well alone. You'll be hurt. If you don't know the answer to any of these statements then add a year to the one year in number 4 for each answer you don't know.
Hope this is useful.
2006-10-10 07:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by a1mandrake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honestly i think it depends on the person for example one of my exs has came back like every time we have ever broken up but the other one seems happier with out me i guess what it really depends on is how close you were and how in love if it was true love he will alwas come back if it was kinda love he will come back a few times and if there was no love or like and all you did was fight then its time to move on hunny but why not go talk to him now if your missing this guy im sure if he feels the same way he'll let you know right away
2006-10-10 07:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on why the two of you broke it off. If he treated you wrong, you shouldn't want him back; if he left you, you shouldn't want him back; if you know you deserve something better, you don't need him back. I know that's not what you wanted to hear, but I wanted to put that out there first. Secondly, yes, ex-boyfriends do come back. It happens all of the time. Excuse my bittnerness, but it is usually because they miss having someone who will put up with their nonsense, and they feel as if the girl is under their control. Guys are assholes, and you need to strongly reconsider if you want an ex-boyfriend back before you go about changing yourself in order to make that happen.
2006-10-10 07:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by cree siempre 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've found that my exes who I had the biggest connections with came back, especially if the relationship didn't end on a horrible note, like cheating.
I don't really like it when that happens, because it's kind of like reopening an old wound. But hey - if you can remain friends with an ex, more power to you!
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2006-10-10 07:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by b b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, they do come back...as for the time...it's all between the both of you or one of you. I had one come back after 1 month and another after 2 yrs.....time heals and you may realize that it's better with the ex and he with you....
2006-10-10 07:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Vanity 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea to remain friends with an ex. Just leave it alone.
2006-10-10 07:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by yomama h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex's come back alot!!!! Every single one of my ex's (that broke up with me) have come back. Most of the time though, they only come back because they are lonely and can't find anyone else better at the moment. If they broke up with you, i wouldn't even considuring getting back with them.
2006-10-10 07:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know I never wanted mine back,so when she left I made it clear that was it.No coming back, no booty calls , not anything,no sympathy calls when her boyfriend was mean to her nothing .It really works best because it allows both people to move on.
2006-10-10 07:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by ga44male 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋