I've been dating someone for 4 months, everything has been smooth, easy and wonderful. A lot in common. Same morals, blah.. blah.. blah. He's recently divorced (I know, my 1st mistake) and has a child with her. This is the 2nd time she had left him, filed for divorce this time. Told him that she felt no compassion for him on their honeymoon that he went through a lot to plan out and make special. No intimacy between the 2 before she left the 1st time and certainly not the 2nd. She now tells him she wants another chance, he has since told me that he isn't considering her, that I'm everything he's ever wanted and have made him happier than he's ever been, I've done nothing wrong and I'm a wonderful person, BUT... he needs some space. He feels lost and empty. Doesn't know if he can love again. Wants time alone to work on himself, get his head back on straight. Hasn't called me since. Is he contemplating her? Or did he get scared? Will he be back or do I need to move on?
2006-10-10 07:01:03 · 8 answers · asked by kataroo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
50% of all divorce, the spouse will end up marrying the same spuse again!
2006-10-10 07:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may well be considering it. After all, they have a child together and they were married. How long were they together? A lot of married couples, especially ones with kids together, try a couple of times to keep the family together and see if there is any way they can work out their differences. A question. Did you start dating him right after she left him? If so, big mistake. When a relationship ends especially a marriage, both parties need to go through all the grieving steps before they start dating again. Unfortunately, many jump right into another relationship never grieving over their previous. This always spells disaster.
You need to move on. He may or may not try to get with you when he is ready. I can't say for sure. You're better off finding someone who can concentrate on you instead of his failed marriage though.
2006-10-10 14:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at this point you should definitely move on. You don't want to involve yourself with someone whose ex plays games with his emotions and he falls for it (his distancing himself from you hints that he may be contemplating returning to his ex - his not calling you is strongly indicative of this also). Move on with your life and find someone that doesn't have all the baggage and is appreciative of all you have to offer.
2006-10-10 14:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by mzmscheeveeuhs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that he is considuring taking her back, and he's trying to let you down gently. Most people lie when they get into difficult situations, it's just easier then telling the truth. I would move on, find someone else.
2006-10-10 14:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t know him, but listen up, I’m three times divorced and for 20 years I’ve continued seeing all three of my X’s. I know it’s the same for many men.
2006-10-10 14:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by namvet68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, he sounds like he has alot of issues and there is no need for you to be drug in the middle of all his baggage.
2006-10-10 14:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on..The guy has a lot of excess baggage.
2006-10-10 14:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, and if it was meant to be it will be⥠He belongs with his baby's mamaâ¥
2006-10-10 14:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by ♥USMCwife♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋