Sex!!!!!!!?

Question

now that i have your attention, this question really is about sex (ha!). Thoughts about sex are considered sinful, right? But we can't control our thoughts before we think them, so how is it possible to actually live one's life without this sin when we can't control whether or not we do it? It's like when i say to you, 'don't think of pink elephants', what are you thinking about right now? It's pink elephants, isn't it? The same is true for sexual thoughts - the more we try to control them, the more they surface. How can it be a sin if we can't control it?

Answer 1

Sex is not a sin....
There are 10 commandments...
Though shall not have sex is not one of them
Sorry

Answer 2

Thoughts will come into your mind that you cannot seem to be in control of.
But you can exert control over your own actions even when these thoughts seem to have command over them.
You can also ignore these thoughts rather than resist them, if they are unwanted by you.
You simply take your attention off them and put it on something external in the environment that does not cause these "reactive" thoughts.

The more attention you give them (including resistence) the more you "energize" them.
You do not HAVE to introvert into these thoughts.... this IS under your control and you can be responsible for this.
The "sin" or unethical aspect has to do with irresposibility about this aspect of your mind. The truth is you do have control, unless you decide that you don't. Either way it's your decision.

Answer 3

You may not be able to control what thoughts pop into your mind, but you CAN control what happens after that.

Say you see someone attractive, and you immediately think BOING! Ok, that's not a sin. However, if you start expanding on BOING!, and let BOING! take over for you, that's where the sin comes in.

Answer 4

Thoughts about sex are not sinful by themselves. Thoughts about sin in an inappropriate context are what is sinful. This would range from premarital to homosexual to pedophilia and the like.

The fact that a thought crosses our mind does not make it instantly a sin. Jesus was tempted in the desert by the devil. The thoughts of whether to do what the devil enticed him to do crossed his mind. However, he did not let them stay there. He purged them immediately. We can't stop a thought from crossing our mind, but we can keep from entertaining it.

It's true that the more we try to control our thoughts regarding any sin, the more they will attempt to attack us. This is why it is so important to learn to maintain spiritual discipline. Look upon the subject of your sin as you will once you have fallen to it. When we have a proper understanding and view of sin as being as destructive as it is, and if we mourn our sin properly, it will not have a control over us. A person who commits a murder of passion, for instance, does not think of his crime as an evil deed as he commits it. He thinks of it as fulfilling his desire. However, once the crime is committed, he quickly mourns it. In that time, no matter how angry he would be at any other person, he would not have the desire to kill them, because he is currently in mourning of the sin that has just taken hold of him.

It's the same for all sins. Once we have fallen to them, they lose their power. We must look at the sin from the angle of having just committed it, but look at it that way BEFORE we commit them.

I encourage a book by Thomas Brooks. It's called "Precious Remedies Against Satan's Devices" it goes much more in depth on the subject of sin and how to avoid its grasp.

Answer 5

I guess because its a sin only if you are doing it w/o controlling it. If your thinking that stuff all the time and you can't help it because you don't look at stuff on the internet, books, magazines, tv...but it runs through your mind...you can't help that. God made us w/ that desire. And he reads our hearts if he knows that we're trying to combat this thinking and trying our best then I don't think its considered a sin. That's how we are inheritantly made from Adam down to now we all have a free-will and we can't control our thoughts sometimes. But as long as we don't submerse ourselves to make that thinking worse then I don't think its sinful.

Answer 6

thinking about sex is not having sex. it is just thinking.

some people can control their thought. some people do have disciplined minds. just because you do not have control does not mean everyone does not.

control or no control, you can have thoughts without being a slave to them. the same can be said of emotions. to feel lust is not to rape. to think about touching is not a sexual attack.

thoughts about sex is only a sin if i want you to feel guity about them. this is true of religions and spouses.

Answer 7

Lust is one of the 7 deadly sins, not sex. Chastity is one of the 7 virtues but there are many things in between those two extremes that are totally acceptable! Only one of the 10 commandments that mention sex is "You shall not commit adultery". So as long as you don't have sex with another partner then with your spouse, you're fine! After all, sex is essential to have children!

Answer 8

Consider this, it is a sin to commit murder, so does this mean the people who think up and write murder mysteries are sinning? A thought is nothing more than a thought, it is only a sin when acted on, this is what seperates the sinners from the non sinners, we all have impure thoughts, its if you act on them or not. And for the record, I do not think sex is a sin. It is not a sin to love someone

Answer 9

You definitely got my attention also. You know we can't stop ourselves from thinking because it's true we are going to think but we can control what we think. Thinking is a mental process and when we allow ourselves to be consumed by our thoughts and we constantly meditate on a certain action, I think, that's when it becomes wrong. For instance if I see someone's BMW (car), and I say to myself, "I want that car." If I set there and lust and think about how I can get that car from that person, that is wrong. But if I see that car and say, "That's a pretty car" and say I want it but don't meditate on it and think about how I'm going to get it from the next man I don't think I have done wrong. We must remember what the bible says about lust and sin. James 1:14 says, "Every man is tempted when he is drawn away of his own lust and enticed. Lust when it is conceived bringeth forth sin and sin when it is finished bringeth for death. So when you yield to sin it is wrong. I think when we don't try and control our thoughts and we let our thoughts consume and control us, it is wrong and all wrong doings is sin. People think about it........

Answer 10

I believe that the prohibitions on sex are simply a diversionary method to control the general populace. Most religions that have restrictions on the personal expression of sex were originally founded as Governing body, not a religious body. Faith and Army went hand in hand for thousands of years in many cultures.

Answer 11

SEX IS NOT A SIN WITHOUT SEX REPRODUCTION USED TO BE IMPOSSIBLE.SIN IS AN ACT AGAINST A RULE MADE BY THE RULING PARTY. RULES ARE MADE TO BENEFIT THE GROUP AS A WHOLE.THE MIND IS NOT TO BE CONTROLLED ONLY OUR PHYSICAL RESPONSE TO THESE THOUGHTS.