some people are not interested in being friends with other people??? (I have been talking to lots of people recently in my class, job, clubs, and wherever I can find people). and it seems that they only want acquantance. They ask me for help in class and I help them and I ask them for help, and they help me. and some of the people never open up after talking to the same people after 2 months. They never start the conversation. I usually have to but most of the conversations are really short though.
Why is that??? If it has to do with trust issues, how can I get a person to trust me if they never open up with their issues? How can I get a good true friend? I feel like just quitting on talking to new people since they never seem to be a very good true friend (either not that responsive like "hi, did you do your homework?", "no", then that's the end of the conversation and that person never start talking to me though. or acquantance (person asks me for help and i ask them for help)
2006-10-10 06:58:16 · 3 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
after i talk to them and if they decide they do not want to connect with me, why is that? what factors are there to make people to think like that? I just want to make a good friend.
for those who said "You try too hard", define that, If I do not try at all, it will be impossible for me to even make friends.
if you mean that I shouldn't try and let people come to me, i tried that but no people want to talk to me.
2006-10-10 06:58:28 · update #1
how do i try not too hard?
2006-10-10 07:00:25 · update #2
I have been polite and positive to make friends but still, it is not happening. What is wrong with me?
2006-10-10 07:02:24 · update #3
be positive and polite.
2006-10-10 07:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take it one step at a time...like if you're sharing work, that's a good start. You might try to suggest working on it together....after school, at lunch.
Try to start a conversation about things you're interested in...shows you enjoy on tv, sports, exercise...that sort of thing and see if the other person has the same interests.
If you both play the same sport, see if you can play together...things like that.
The more time you spend together the more likely it will lead to more "personal" topics, and eventually to a great friendship.
Good luck...being a good friend isn't easy, it takes work, so don't be afraid to be the one initiating it.
2006-10-10 07:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by Flower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait and you will eventually find a good friend that is all you can do for now (please vote as best anwser please please please)
2006-10-10 12:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by katlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋