My son is 7 months old and i am 22, my son means the world to me and i cant ever imagine another man but his father excepting that they will always be second best.
2006-10-10 06:48:07 · 37 answers · asked by lubeymor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Plenty of men take on other peoples children...dont worry.
2006-10-10 06:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for over a year now and I have a 4 year old daughter. When I left her father she was 18 months. He never came around so she didnt have him in her life. My husband became her father as of this past August, he adopted her!! If the man loves you then he will understand that you are a package, and he should love your son just as much as he loves you. If he can't, then I wouldnt waste my time.
2006-10-10 06:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by hott_ott2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in this day and age i think its fairly likely that most relationships that start a new mean we have to understand that the woman or man you want to be with comes as a package and it should never be a problem after all if we love the person we love the child that comes with them not obviously instead of the parent who,s not around but as well as most kids benefit from this nowadays two birthdays etc two sets of parents instead of one to love and cherish them it can be brill all round hard sometimes yes but brilliant all the same its what you make of it isnt it and at 7 months he,s still a baby so wont know any different as long as you dont make a fuss things will be fine im sure dont worry you still have your whole life to share for you and your beautifull boy go for it
2006-10-10 09:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the father of two step children I can tell you that it takes a very secure, confident man...why would you want any other kind. I love my wife with all my heart it has been now 8 years and in addition to the two, we now have a third together. Her ex lives in the area and he sees his kids often. I love what I have and I know he regrets what he lost, but that is life. Just be patient, there is someone for everyone.
2006-10-10 06:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by swordlord23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how the relationship with the childs mother progresses, and any guy that works hard and is an honest man should treat the child as if the child is a treasure ,,and be responsible,, if a man can do this,,then yes he should be able love the mother of that child very easy, but that love comes with a price,,a good man will always wonder if the child he has cometo love as his own will be taken away from him by a woman that feels she owes it to her child to make it work with the childs biological father,, and guess who is left in the cold....
2006-10-10 06:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by kewl69charger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a rel for 4 years when we broke up and i met someone else for a short time and i became pregnant. My boyfriend and i broke up. I was in despair i did not know what i was going to do, My ex who i was in a rel for 4 years heard of my situation and he started to talk to me. For a few weeks we remained just good friends and he offered me great support but gradually we began to realise that we still loved one another.
He said it does not matter about the unborn being not mine its apart of you so i will love him as mine and we got back together
We recently split up for good a couple of years ago
My son is now 8 years old and the only dad he has ever known is my ex partner and to my ex partner my son is his son, and i would have it no other way.
There is some special people out there believe me
good luck
2006-10-12 21:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from personal experience. I was a divorced mother of 4 wonderful children. I had 3 girls and 1 son. I felt the same way you do. Who is ever going to love me knowing that I have 4 children from another man. But I can tell you that I did find somebody wonderful 3 years ago. we are now happily married and he loves my kids like they are his and my children love him.
2006-10-10 07:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by captaink13sgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a real man would be more then willing to step up to the plate. For you and your son.Find out about his character and what he's like before you accept him as your son's other guardian.Don't make it a habit of telling your son this is his daddy and things don't work out between you and him.If you can date and not have your son so much in the mix then cool. get to know the man before you make any rash decisions. Remember they'll be two hearts broken if things don't work out.
2006-10-10 06:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by sex-c-one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My current girlfiend is two months pregnant with another man's child, we met after she got pregnant. And although it is early days for our relationship, I've told her that if we stay together I will treat the child as my own and no differently from any children we may have, and I believe I will love that child (we don't know if its a boy or a girl yet) as if it were my own.
2006-10-10 07:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by spear_1021 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any man that is not willing to look at your entire person ie. your children, in today's society, has his head in the sand and is not worthy of your time and effort. Focus on YOU and your child. If a man wants YOU he will love your child as well...do not compromise on this for a man...your son or daughter will make you pay for this.
2006-10-10 06:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by Cadman1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they will i met my boyfriend when i had a 2 year old son and he has taken on my son as his own and now we have a daughter and i worried he would treat my son differently but he doesnt he treats them equally. you will find someone just let them know from the start you come as a package and if hes a decent guy he'll stay if not you've lost nothing, but always remember your son must always come first
2006-10-10 06:54:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋