some people are not interested in being friends with other people??? (I have been talking to lots of people recently in my class, job, clubs, and wherever I can find people). and it seems that they only want acquantance. They ask me for help in class and I help them and I ask them for help, and they help me. and some of the people never open up after talking to the same people after 2 months. They never start the conversation. I usually have to but most of the conversations are really short though.
Why is that??? If it has to do with trust issues, how can I get a person to trust me if they never open up with their issues? How can I get a good true friend? I feel like just quitting on talking to new people since they never seem to be a very good true friend (either not that responsive like "hi, did you do your homework?", "no", then that's the end of the conversation and that person never start talking to me though. or acquantance (person asks me for help and i ask them for help)
2006-10-10 06:46:18 · 12 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
after i talk to them and if they decide they do not want to connect with me, why is that? what factors are there to make people to think like that? I just want to make a good friend.
2006-10-10 06:46:27 · update #1
for those who said "You try too hard", define that, If I do not try at all, it will be impossible for me to even make friends.
2006-10-10 06:47:18 · update #2
maybe you are trying to hard, relax and see what happens
2006-10-10 06:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know...maybe show an interest in something they are interested in, or ask questions that would require more than a yes/no answer. You're right though about SOME people not being interested in being friends with other people. Some are comfortable in a small circle of friends, but that isn't the case with everybody. Don't give up. Just be a kind person and try what I suggested. Maybe you'll find some good friends...but that takes a little time too. Good Luck! : )
2006-10-10 06:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you try to hard. Some people have a hard time opening up to new friend ships. You seem to be vary open and willing to give a lot to others. There should be more like you. Just keep trying you will eventually break through there barrier. A long lasting friendship wont happen over night it will take time but it will be worth it in the end.
2006-10-10 06:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just not the friend type, I am not. I don't mind hanging out in class or maybe out every once in a while, but having a friend is too much of a commitment, I do not have the time to devote to it, maybe the people you are dealing with are the same way. You can not create friends, a friend is someone that you just click with, keep meeting people and it will just happen, don't quit trying.
2006-10-10 06:52:48 · answer #4 · answered by stephaniencurtis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of trying to get them to 'open up', ask them to do things outside the area where you normally see them. Have a cook out for people at work. Rent a movie and announce a 'break from studying day' some Friday after school. Deep friendships take time, you can't force people to trust you.
2006-10-10 06:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends like you describe are made; trust is built, it doesn't just happen. Sadly it seems that people don't trust as easily as they used to.
You sound like a great person, but just like any relationship it will come in it's time. You need to find someone you can talk about a great many things with. Start small and work your way up.
2006-10-10 06:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by Wahrsuul 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately we are living in a age where people don't seem to care about other people or their feelings.just a suggestion why don't you ask your parents can you have a pj party and invite some girls over,if the say yes invite about 15 girls and see who shows up.stock up on the goodies and Cd's plus DVDs have some hamburgers ,franks and french fries and just hang out.if but one of them comes then your still a winner cause you'll have someone who interested in getting to know the real you,don't forget the sodas good luck tell them your having a ladies night out
2006-10-10 10:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of trying to get someone to open up to you or opening up to them try going to places other than class to meet people. If you see someone you recognize from class make the initiative to hang out with them. People like to have fun together first before opening up and investing in a serious friendship. If you want to be more than classmates you have to take it outside the classroom. Same applies to work.
2006-10-10 06:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think some of it is how they are raised. I am a country girl and I love to met new people and talk to them. Sometimes that is just the way they are. Keep trying you will fing someone soon.
2006-10-10 06:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by Debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we're living in a era of gross suspicions.. all since 9/11........... try being more distant and let them come to you, then be as helpful as possible. they then see you as dependable and trust able take from there.......but slowly LOL
2006-10-10 06:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋