will i ever be happy with my hubby?

Question

we always fight for petty reasons...i want to be happy with my husband will i ever be?

Answer 1

You need to tlak talk talk,,,, and don't get all grouchy about the small stuff, y ou need to learn to tell him why things bother you, but not over re act about things...

Answer 2

Of course you can be. Just imagine if there is no fight in marriage, then how would you ever enjoy and value the moments of being together. It is common in marriage.
Wait ..

I am not advocating your fight. But, ask yourself, why do you have to pick up every small thing to fight with him? Is there something else bothering you? Is he not loving you enough? Are you doing this to get his attention? There are other ways to get his attention

But why is that you should get his attention? Reason 1. you are planning to live with him till you are very old .. that is long many years. (If you are thinking about divorce then don't have to adjust) Reason 2. When you fight, you loose the peace of mind more than him. (If you don't care loosing your peace as long as he looses it, it does not matter) Reason 3. If you don't get his attention then there is a lot of chance that he gives his attention somewhere else!

Now let's find ways to get his attention. Lets say your husband is too tired and hungry when he comes from office. Now you are in your bed having headache. He comes and he had to make a cup of coffee for himself and also for you. Won't that be nice!!!

You want him to do that for you? Now probably it is a good idea that you can start thinking in that lines and start doing it yourself for him. What do i mean? Put yourself in his sheos. You'll figureout why he does what he does.

Yea, it is really annoying all the silly things he is missing out. Should you have to put up with him? Not at all. But you don't have to yell at him either.

When he forgets things try writing a reminder note for him. When he is careless about important days, keep reminding him days before.

I mean instead of loosing your temper try being a help.

Is he not coming home early? It is very easy to solve... when he leaves to office, just pull him close to you, kiss his cheeks and wink at him and say, would you come early? (You know what i mean)

You bet, he will be there half an hour before time!!!

There is nothing impossible in a marriage as long as you love him. (I mean even when he does not love you, you can turnthe whole thing around. What is not possible for a woman?)

Wish you all the best.

Answer 3

You fight with your hubby for petty reasons and you want to be happy with him… yes, it looks positive. I recollect… while I was a child I too used to fight with my sister in the same way and wanted to be good to her also.

Such fights are also a form of love… you fight with him because you keep your attention on him and expect him to be attentive for you. You are a charming couple… so clear hearted… no diplomacy… very transparent… and most of the time keeping eye contact.

You know there are couples who indulge in cold war… they talk diplomatically and always try to play tricks with each other… and never look eye to eye.

Therefore, keep fighting the way you are doing today. Do not let ill feelings seep in your relations. Be together most of the time and fight with yet more sweet way.

You are happy today and will be so in time to come...Good luck

Answer 4

Marriage is work. It's not all a garden of roses. Get a book called "The Five Love Languages" and read it. Also, read "Crucial Conversations." Those should help you gain som skills into working with your husband. Remember that you cannot change him, but you can change yourself, and when he sees that you are working hard to better the relationship, he may try as well.

Answer 5

If you ever want to lead a happy life... first thing u have to do is avoid arguments. Don't try to prove or get any results immly. postpone your questions / anger for a while and think whether it's worth doing it at this moment.. This will help u in the long run.... try this out... it will help you also to gain little bit maturity...

Answer 6

why on God's green Earth did you marry someone you do not get along with. You both need to let the petty stuff go!

Answer 7

Only one way to find out. Get both of you into a qualified, experienced couples counselor. Work with that person to really communicate and explore your relationship. If it is worth saving, it is worth sweating for in marriage therapy. And it is the only way you will answer your own question honestly.

Answer 8

Sometime when you're not fighting, is the best time to bring up issues. Also have a rule about when you are arguing, to not bring up old issues, just stick to the problem at hand.

Answer 9

sure why not.i am writing a poem for u both.
there is very fine difference between self esteem and ego.if u go front it is ego if u go back u will be called a stooge.dont go front always either u will get hurt or u will get caught.
have faith in yourself and yours husband and talk less,listen more

Answer 10

sounds like you might be happier with another husband than the one you have.... petty arguments lead to all out war at times, causing stress which is sooooo unhealthy, good luck...