ok....i am 16 years old and my boyfriend is 20...... i really love him with all me heart, but i think he is starting to have second thoughts about staying with me, because i am still in school and he has a job, we see each other every day. We have been together for like 6 months, do you think he is getting tired of waitin on me to graduate????
2006-10-10 06:25:31 · 23 answers · asked by babygurl22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not if he loves you
just be patient
2006-10-10 06:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, when there is love in the air; age shouldn't be a problem! It is always good to be upfront with each other- no matter what the situation is! Right now you feel that he may be having second thoughts; when really he could just be nervous that he isn't in school with you( there may be guys your age trying to take you away from him)...Normally when a guy has second thoughts he will do whatever it takes to stay away from you.... Obviuosly that is not the case here- you have been together for 6 months and seeing each other on a daily basis should reassure you that he does care. Maybe he is just insecure about himself right now.... you probably are the best thing that has ever happened to him and he doesn't know how to express that. Don't stress yourself out with that.... just talk to him and i am sure everything will be fine. Good luck and take care...
2006-10-10 13:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by arabic.dream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is an awkward age gap. Not that 4 years is to far a gap. It's just that with you in school you should be enjoying the guys that are in high school and are enjoying all the things high school offers. What do you think is going to happen next year when he is 21? He is going to be trying out the bars and you will be sitting at home wondering what he is doing. Just let that relationship go. Being young is great, you get the chance to enjoy things and having an older boyfriend will just make you miss out on the last years of youth.
2006-10-10 13:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in love is such a funny thing, because we try so hard to get to being in love but when we get there we have to wonder if it was all that I really wanted? I was in a similar situation about 5 years ago and it did not end the best way that it could have . being that he was much older there where some things that he wanted to do that I wasn't ready for ( drinking, smoking, sex,etc) and being that I so called loved him I wanted to make him happy and not have him to look at me as a child but as his equal. But I just had to realize that no matter what I did I would never be his equal because I was still a child in my own right and though I was mature for my age I was not what he needed at the time. So sweetie I am not telling you that you should leave him but I do know that in time you will make the right decision about it . and who knows you to may be meant for each other just be safe!!
2006-10-10 13:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by jai h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, he is an adult and you are not. If he is becoming less interested in you, for whatever reasons, his intention for your relationship may have been less than sincere Who knows his real reason, but it may have everything to do with the idea of statutory rape and the illegality of the realationship with you. .
I don't know why you have come to the conclusion that he might be having second thoughts with you--that school and his job is the reason. School is just like work...couples have jobs, which separate them at given periods of time during the day. So, if he has said anything to you, that would give you your conclusion--he is trying to give you an 'excuse.' He wants to let you down easily.
DO NOT quit school because of this guy. Let him go, do it now, and move on. Im not saying this is going to be easy.
2006-10-10 13:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to truly answer this question is to talk to him. I could tell you no he's not, but I do not know him personally and cannot guess his thoughts. There is that age difference and the fact that you are a minor and still have two years before you turn 18 and are legal. That might be a problem for him. Talk to him.
2006-10-10 13:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by M. S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously love him, and to risk imprisonment he probably loves you. I am not sure why you would automatically ask if he would be getting tired, has there been signs, or maybe it is you having doubts about the age gap. I'm sorry if this does not answer your question and if you included more details I would love to help more. If you don't get the answer your looking for feel free to e-mail me with more details and I will get back to you.
2006-10-10 13:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by porta_custos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think relationships such as yours tend to get a bit shaky during this time of your life. He's close to being an adult and will soon be able to take advantage of more things in life, while you won't...legally. I would suggest you take care of your education and get serious later. There are still many opportunities for you both. Good luck.
2006-10-10 13:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is its his own fault because he knew how old you were when he got with you. You need to finish school and if he cant wait it out with you he doesnt need to be there. Im sure you know how important school is and he should too...with him already being in the working field. Good jobs are hard to come by anymore without the education.
2006-10-10 13:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me for being vague, but you two shoulden't be dating eachother anyway. That MAN is 20 years old and you are just 16. That's called statitory rape. Do yourself a favor and ask him what he likes about you and why he couldn't find anyone his own age.
2006-10-10 13:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by Kristen B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys live different lives. That's all. Maybe you should ask him. It would be kind of hard for ya'll to hang out with friends seeming how everyone has a big gap between ages. Just be honest with him.
2006-10-10 13:28:10 · answer #11 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋