I am a Muslim woman and my marriage is finished. What do I do? I am so depressed, it wasn't my chioce to be divorced. I love my husband and he loves me still but we tried and it doesn't work. He says he is still going to pay all of my bills and always be there for me as my best friend. We have no children and we were married for 2 years. Any advice from Muslims, Inshallah.
2006-10-10 06:24:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
We are getting divorced because we just have 2 completly different life styles. I like to stay home and he likes to go out and be around people. He also flirts with girls when he is with his friends and online as well. I told him I cannot trust him when he is going out and talking to girls instead of spending time with me. We got married too fast, we loved eachother from the first look.
2006-10-10 06:42:17 · update #1
sorry to hear that sister. how about marriage counseling did you try that?
i mean if you two love each others so much why get divorced. you can over come your problems with love and understanding.
May Allah be with you and no matter what happens know that it's what's best for you and Allah knows what we don't know.
best of luck sis.
2006-10-10 06:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You tried and it doesn't work? You love each other? He's going to pay your bills, be there for you, and be your best friend? Is one of you homosexual? "Cause otherwise I don't find it adds up.
Since the added details, I'd say you might have loved him, but he didn't love you. I'm sorry, but love is respectful and sacrificial. "Love" at first sight is in fact infatuation; true love doesn't happen in a moment in time it grows and develops over time. If he loved you, he wouldn't flirt with other women in public that's direspectful. He can tell you that he'll pay your bills, when he eventually remarries and his new wife wants his money, time will tell you how he was a lier.
Get some counselling, a good education if you haven't already, and a job. Don't count on him; only you live for youirself. Sign up for an art class or some other type of community class to help you a bit with your "depression" sadness. If you keep busy, you won't have time to be sad. Good luck.
2006-10-10 06:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dear sister,
Have patience, pray, and believe in Allah's will.... getting divorced is not the end of the world... you sound young, so you still have got a life to live and enjoy.... Thank Allah every minute that you don't have children, this has been the biggest blessing... otherwise, your decision would have been not only difficult, but would have affected the lives of innocent children...
Divorce in Islam is not really a prefered option... but Allah had enough mercy on us, and he gave us the choice and free will to make our own decisions, and to get out of situations that could cause us misery.... if you truly believe in your heart that you tried and gave it your best shot, then there's no need to worry... Allah would rather see you single and happy rather than married and miserable....
Also thank Allah for the wonderful ex-husband you have; not all divorced women are this lucky...
really sister, everything you're telling us about your case indicate that you should be feeling very lucky and happy with the current situation.... so, do thank Allah for his mercy and blessings...
May Allah help you and guide to happiness and the right path...
2006-10-10 06:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since it wasn't your choice and there is nothing that u can do about it then there is nothing u can do but accept it. I feel for u and I totally understand what u r going through, it will be difficult in the beginning but u will get over it after some time. Try to pray and also try to make yourself busy all the time. I wish you all the best..
2006-10-10 06:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by Isis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first thing i want to tell.....i m not a muslim
now as your marriage is finished up can't help yourself to live with that same man , as it is not allowed in your religion until, you marry him again...
you should seek some other decent fellow and spent your life with him .....or you can reunite if u love each other...
may be first one was a wrong decision.......you said you both love each other then what was the reason of divorce.....the foremost thing in a marriage is love and mutual understanding......
you can keep in touch with your past hubby .....
all i can advise you is to be optimist.......
may ALLAH help you rest.........
2006-10-10 06:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by SAMUEL H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's good he is still ready to help you....but u have to still keep distance as you guys are divorced and cant get back together. Even if you want to the procedure is very difficult.
2006-10-10 06:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by Huda_Alee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have the best of both worlds. Do whatever you want to do. Go to school or get a job. Think of the one thing you have always wanted to do with your life and do it.
2006-10-10 06:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about that sister. it's good that you guys don't have no children.
don't be depressed, didn't you read what God said:
[216] ..... and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allâh knows but you do not know.
Quran 2:216
2006-10-10 06:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is hard no matter what the religion.
I hope you have good support from your friends and family.
Can you see a counsellor and doctor for the depression?
2006-10-10 06:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by NoLabel 11 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other why doesnt it work?
I suggest youguys get counseling.
Maybe you dont know how to fix it but a counselor will!!
Good Luck
2006-10-10 06:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by PG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋