i am 20 and have just started a good job i have a morgage with my partner, my mum wants grandchildren but i am no where near ready. her two sisters are both grandmothers and she is feeling broody. she is only 43 but misses having children around
2006-10-10 05:55:03 · 39 answers · asked by 3 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Tell her to stop hassling you and you'll have kids when YOU'RE ready. Tell her to spend time with her sister's grandkids if she likes children. Ask her how she would have felt if she'd been forced into having kids when she wasn't ready.
You're young and having children takes over your life, don't have them just to please your Mum. Tell her to stop being so selfish and get a hobby.
2006-10-10 05:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by Yasmin H 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are too young and you need to be emotionally, mentally and physically ready to have a baby. And of course financially secure. It's not cheap taking care of a baby. I had my first at 25. I was married and on cloud nine. But it is alot of work. To be the best mom you could be you need to be ready. Enjoy you life right now. Your baby in 5-10 years with thank you for it. Good luck. Tell your mom to go to and home for unwanted children and spent some time with all those children and maybe she won't push you.
2006-10-10 06:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by carmieaa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day the decision to have children is ultimately yours not your mums. You can't just have kids coz your mum wants to be a nan, you need to wait till you are ready to make such a big decision about your life.
Talk to your mum and tell her that you do want children eventually but now is not the right time for you.
2006-10-10 09:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by EVSCHICK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im only 15 but i will try and help these questions are fun lol.( not that your question is funny or anything like that!)
Wow isn't i normally the other way round lol. just take her on a girly day out take her to the spar and to get her hair and nails done then go and have a spot of lunch somewere and simply just say im not ready for children yet but i am considering it for the future even if your not it should please her. Good Luck on braking the news lol : )
2006-10-10 06:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only good reason to have children is because you're ready yourself, in a stable relationship and fully prepared for your life to change.
Providing somebody else with a grandchild is not a good enough reason.
You could always point out to you mum that at 43 she could always have another baby herself :)
2006-10-10 07:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by Gail H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-07 14:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. You are just 20. Tell her you will try to have one in 5 to 10 years. If she wants another kid around she is just 43. Tell her to have one you would love to have a little sister or brother.
2006-10-10 06:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's your body and nobody else's business when you get pregnant. At 20,you're still too young. You've barely started adult life,might as well get some life experience before you raise
a family. Your mother has to accept that no matter what other members of your family are doing,you'll do what's right for yourself.
2006-10-10 06:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Alion 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your mum you will have kids when you are good and ready. tell her you want to get a good home, and career in front of you so that when you decide to have kid`s you can give them the best start in life. any mother would understand your reasons and should be proud of you for wanting to do best from the start. good luck in tour job.
2006-10-10 09:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by shayney boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready then wait. Tell her to become a foster parent there are children who didn't ask to be here and need a home. Good Luck.
2006-10-10 05:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by Precious1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋