what do think about long distance relationship?do they work out?what do u do if u really like a girl and shes far away?stay with her?or what?because theres this one girl ilike and she is hot and we've been talking on the phone alot and i dont think ill ever see her again but at the same time i dont want to lose her too what do i do?
2006-10-10 05:54:33 · 13 answers · asked by MUSTANG SALEEN 281 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh dear...I found myself in the similar situation as well.....he was far away...well maybe not as far as the distance and not seeing him made it....
It's bitter sweet you know...at the same time we imagine ourselves with that person and make it idyllic and perfect....and we can't find ourselves letting go...it's just too pain full ....
I don't want to brake your illusions but that just can't be real love...unless you get to know her from every angle and get to know how to love every perfection and imperfection....
Don't deny yourself something better.....
Let go....slowly if it's better, but you just have to start...
I hope it turns out all right
2006-10-10 06:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Capricious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from experience that it's hard, but it takes two people to truly make it work. I am in a long distance relationship with an incredible guy I met online more than a year ago who lives in California and I am in IL and we've been friends now for almost 2 years and we're going to meet in person next spring in Las Vegas to spend a few days together and the we're planning to meet up again in Florida at the end of the summer before I start back to school to spend a few days together then too. You also have to figure how often you guys can see each other and also keep in mind of each other's financial situations and plan your trips and excursions accordingly so that you are not working or in school and can take off. Do what you can and you got the internet and if you both have web cams and microphones you can do video conferencing which is free on Yahoo and you can also talk on another site called Skype.com. My boyfriend and I use Skype to talk on the internet phone and Yahoo for the web cam conferencing and if your cell phone plans permit you free nights and weekends you can talk all you want from the time it starts until it ends. That's a good way to save money on high long distance phone bills and to put some of that money away so you can see each other and it's got to be reciprocated meaning you come and see her that month and she comes and sees you one month it cant be you always come to see her or her always coming to see you. You can send each other little things if you can afford it to make the time go by before your next visit. I really wish I could have showed you this website called Rainbow-Connection.org, but it's no longer active, yet here's a website you should check out it's called www.longdistancecouples.com and it can help you with ideas about how to manage and maintain and make your LDR last. Hope this gives you some ideas and suggestions to maintain your relationship with your girlfriend.
2006-10-10 13:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships can work, but they don't always. In that sense it's just like being in the same place as someone. The relationship I'm in right now puts me 5 hours from my girlfriend, but we talk almost every night. We spend any time we can together and we have a great connection. There are going to be months that go by and we won't see each other at all, while there will be other times we'll see each other a few consecutive weekends. The key is that we both work hard to talk when we can and do what we can for each other, just like we would if we lived close.
If you really like the girl, try to go for it. Keep the relationship alive. If you both want it enough, it'll work just as well as a relationship where you are right there with each other. In fact, perhaps more. Being apart so long helps you really appreciate what time you get together. If you think it would work if you were going to be near each other, then long distance should work if both of you are willing to work on it.
2006-10-10 13:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by j_m_mesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is smart to try to jump into a long distance relationship unless you know that there could possible be a future for the two of you. I've actually lost two boyfriends over distance already and I can tell you it really sucks. I still talk to both of them all the time and I miss them very much. One I haven't seen for about 3 years now but we still stay in touch. The other I believe to be the person I would spend the rest of my life with if I could, but I know I may never see him again.
On the other hand a very good friend of mine tryed a long distance relationship online...they were together via computer, phone and letters for 3 years and finally she moved from Puerto Rico all the way to NM with her 4 kids and Is now married to her online lover. So I guess it all depends on how much the both of you would be willing to commite to a long distance relationship.
2006-10-10 13:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by angie_elmo_005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships can work....but you have to have the devotion from both ends.
In your case, though, if you don't think you'll ever see her again, then I don't think that you should move forward. What is the fun and the point of having a relationship if you never plan to be with that person at all? You have nothing to progress to.
I would give this a lot of thought before moving forward. What do you really want out of this relationship?
2006-10-10 12:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naaah, it'll never work. Unless, of course you guys are mature enough to handle a situation like that. If she's out trying to pursue her career then it might. Just be her 'backbone' or support system while she's out running into obstacles along the way. If she's out in college, no sir. That, my friend, will not work. Too many guys. Just be her friend wipe your azz n try again. You'll start missing her, and wanting to come and see her, and worrying about her while she's out meeting new guys. I'd say no. Thak you, come again.
2006-10-10 13:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by NVR UNDRESTM8 KARMA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is possible. There are many people who live in the US or Canada and they meet others online who live in Europe and they go to visit and see them, even if it is only once and then they file for them and get married. It can all work if you apply yourself and your patience. It does take a lot of patience. You seem to care for her a lot. If so, hang in there, you never know. Good luck.
2006-10-10 13:02:39 · answer #7 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry no, i do believe that 1 outta every 15 couples can over come that, but in the majority , no
Both parties have to be strong enuf, and maybe u r, but can u swear he is....i m not saying not to try but try to loook at it realistically
2006-10-10 12:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its pritty hard for long realationships to happen u and ur girl have to be in love like realy in love to keep long realationships to go on and u screw it up its never gonna happen again in a while atleast cuzz its happend to me b4
2006-10-10 13:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by superbudz14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really Really work at it and realise that eventually, one of you has to move to the other one....
2006-10-10 12:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by OTNEB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋