Sometimes, when I'm changing clothes, my son will come in, do you think it's okay to let him see you nude? What about with your husband? I don't really know how to address this situation, he just sorta stares. advice?
2006-10-10 05:41:57 · 26 answers · asked by Wonderious 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
it is only an issue if you make it one. take your cues from the child. if questions start to arise or it gets obviously uncomfortable then do what it takes to ensure it won't happen. otherwise-the body is normal and healthy and you don't want to create a sense of shame about it in your child-otherwise they may grow to be uncomfortable asking you questions or telling you things in the future
2006-10-10 07:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jep 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what you want to teach him. If you want him to believe that nakedness is shameful or that your body is ugly, then by all means lock the door and shoo him out. On the other hand, if you accept that there will be a time that he will be able to look at all the naked people he wants (probably a lot sooner than you would like!), then perhaps it's no big deal if he sees one more now.
As far as keeping nudity from a child for fear that he'll become some kind of flasher or pervert... I'm going to have to call malarkey on that one.
Most kids are a lot smarter than parents give them credit for. If you're a kid, you learn really fast that there are rules and you have to follow them or you'll get in trouble. Kids also learn very quickly that different rules apply in different places. Most parents have observed this when they see their child behave very differently in one place than another, or when a specific person is present but not otherwise.
Any nudity a child sees at home therefore has pretty much no chance of translating into nudity elsewhere. This question, therefore, is pretty much only about you and your house.
Think about it... if he's REALLY curious and he doesn't find out from you, it's going to make him MORE likely to play 'doctor' at school, not LESS!
2006-10-10 12:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Doctor Why 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well if you feel weird about it he is going to feel weird about it.
In my house you just happen to be naked sometimes. Heck sometimes in the middle of getting dressed I get a "moommmmmm" and have to go naked to help my 6 year old do something. It's not weird to him because we have always acted like naked is normal. It's not abnormal. My husband is the same way we are very open and free and I don't want my sons to think they have to hide things...therefor making it bad.
Granted if said 6 year old is running around w/no undies I make him put them on...and we don't just go around nude for no reason...only when it's dressing/bathing time.
But if you have the 'whatever' attitude it will be no big deal and even give him a healthy attitude of the diff of boys and girls.
2006-10-10 13:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the amount of nudity. Should you walk all through the house naked? No. Will it damage your son if he walks in on you while changing? No. Just don't freak out and make him think he's done something wrong. Don't make a big deal about it. When he's a little older just lock your door when you're changing. I also see nothing wrong with telling your child you want some privacy.
2006-10-10 12:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw my parents in some form of undress pretty much all my life. They never made any big deal about it, so I never thought too. My parents explained to me that being undressed at home, while showering, dressing, going to the bathroom, etc are perfectly normal. I was curious and asked questions bout their bodies... why they were different from mine and my parents always calmly explained why. Your child will know from being in public, that people don't go around without their clothes on in public... I am a 28 year old woman now. Seeing my parents naked didn't make me a perv, an exhibitionist, or carless with my body.
If you don't make a big deal out of it they won't either.
2006-10-10 13:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by just me 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 yr old son, who has seen me naked. I don't think it's a big deal. My husband on the other hand is very private about my son seeing him naked. I guess it's just a personal decision that you have to make. There is nothing wrong with teaching your child modesty, but in the same sense you don't want him to think a naked body is shameful. I would definitely become more aware of being naked infront of your child come closer to school age because you don't want him to say something to someone that could be taken completely out of context.
2006-10-10 12:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by mel_lea1025 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well...
It does depend on the age of your child. If everyone is comfortable with it then there is no problem. My husband and I have a 4 year old daughter and have never hidden nudity from her at all until recently.
She knows the difference between boys and girls and knows that when someone has clothes on they don't want you to look at their private parts.
My aunt was the same way with her daughter. Her daughter showered with her until she was 8 years old.
These children are going to grow up and are going to have questions about their bodies. I want my daughter to know that I'm comfortable with my body and that she can ask me anything she wants to. I want her to appreciate her body as well as everyone else and realize that we are all different.
So, to answer your question. It's totally up to you and your husband. Weather or not you're comfortable around your son.
2006-10-10 12:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley S 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think nudity is a normal part of life. If you are uncomfortable with it, then so will your child. If he acts a little different when he sees you nude, it is probabally because he is picking up on your uneasiness. Your toddler needs to know that there is nothing wrong with a naked body. If you hide it he may end up being confused later on in life. Just act normal, because it is normal. He will be more comfortable with his body and sexuality when the time comes if you are comfortable with yours. (not to say that there is anything sexual about it)
If you hide it from him he may not feel comfortable to come to you with questions when they arise, (years from now)
If he asks questions just answer them, toddlers are curious about everything.
2006-10-10 13:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by butterfliesbrown 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to take my bath in the mornings with my son....it was more convenient to get both of us bathed at the same time. One morning, he was about 2 1/2, he said 'mommy, why you have hair there?'....from that point on, he got bathes by himself, and he was not allowed in the room when I was changing. Now I am the mommy and he is a boy, he still takes baths and such with daddy, but I just felt after that point that it was inappropriate for me, as a woman, to be nude around my son.
2006-10-10 12:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
not to be sick or anything but he is just curious. nothing wrong with it, i don't think. and if he is young enough he don't know what he is looking at. if it bothers you alot just ask him nicely to go wait outside for a min until you are done getting dressed. and later while just talking just tell him that if he needs you and the door is shut just knock and you will be right out. PLEASE what ever you tell him make sure you don't make it sound like a bad thing that he came in on you while you was getting dresses. he might feel he has done something very bad. young kids takes alot to heart and they get hurt by it.
2006-10-10 12:57:03 · answer #10 · answered by deener1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's wondering. You don't want to see these things like that at a young age. He might get a little older and go to school and do the I show you mine if you show me yours. Good Luck . Try locking the door when changing clothes. Remember that a child's mind grow by learning from it's surroundings.
2006-10-10 12:51:06 · answer #11 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋