Can you fall in Love on Internet?

Question

I am Catholic and have been chatting to a Hindu male in India everday for the past 9 weeks. At first it was general chat but then started to develop feelings for each other.We are both in marriages, and were not unhappy or looking for someone else, but now we are both desperately in love. Can it work? We also speak on phone each day and have sent photos, gifts etc. Has anyone else been in similar position?

Answer 1

I have been in that exact same position and believe me, as tight as you are now, the real test is spending time with someone day in/day out in person. I was in a relationship where we were head-over-heels in love & he moved closer to be with me. It was wonderful for a while. But the reality of finances, everyday life, etc. took a major toll because we had differing ideas on how we approached things. Take it slowly & see where it leads. Good luck & blessings to you.

Answer 2

Love on the interenet can happen. I am a total nerd/geek (started teaching at the University at 20), so to me dating was not really an option. So, meeting over the internet was the only way. This is now the only way I can date - then when the girl likes me then we date in person. I like this SAFE way.

However, there is a downside. Everything that person said could have been a lie. There is not that emotion compared to when you are talking face to face or side by side.

So, be careful!!!!!!

I would strongly suggest you get divorced first! before trying a relationship!!!

Answer 3

i think you should really watch out for this sort of thing. theres no telling what this guy really wants.

you can't tell if someones lying to you over the internet. he might just be doing it to get into our country.

plus think of how your husband would feel. this guy obviously has no morals if he's chatting up a married woman.

sorry, i dont really know the full story and shouldn't jump to all these conclusions. in answer to your original question, im sure it is possible to fall in love on the net.

but if thats what your planning you need to sort out the relationship you're in first. its just not fair.

plus when falling for someone on the net be EXTREEMLY careful. people can type anything, it doesnt mean its true or that they even believe it.

i wish you all the luck for the future, but take care of yourself and your own interests before jumping in with both feet!

Answer 4

Sounds to me like you are two lonely people ho have met in cyber and because you shared common ground as in not happily married have allowed things to become more than they probably really are in your minds. This is part reality as in you do speak to each other but also with a huge dose of fantasy. You have to pull back and honestly look at the whole thing. Do you want out of your marriage if so do just that and then seek another relationship. If you don't want out of your marriage for whatever reason then make it better......put the same level of energy and talk into your husband as you are to this man. Create a romantic situation with your husband.....get councelling whatever. But this first thing is to be honest with yourself or you are paving a road to hurt for someone.

Answer 5

Ok, you say you are Catholic, but are you a practicing Catholic. If you are I really suggest you talk to your priest. No, I do not believe you can fall in love on the internet, though my mother-in-law and brother-in-law would beg to differ since they both found their spouses online. They seem to be happy. Personally I think you need to spend time with a person in order to get to know them enough to fall in love with them. For all you know this guy is a serial killer from God knows where. You have a husband, he has a wife and you both made a commitment. You need to grow up, get over it, and take care of your responsibilities. I hope you haven't procreated.

Answer 6

You don't know if this guy is real or not, because you haven't physically met him. Your jepordizing your relationship with a someone who could be lying to you. You never know, it's up to you to take the risk or not. It seems you were already unhappy in your relationship which made you look elsewhere. I would cut the strings on your marriage, and see if this other guy is real. If not , then oh well.

Answer 7

I think you can fall in love with the idea of someone and the idea of falling in love. I do think it is possible to find your soul mate on line, however I do think it is rare. When people search for love on line they do it for different reasons, like the Match.com sites, where people are searching for a long term mate, they may be going in with blinders on, or have tunnel vision only seeing what they want. I think there is something lacking in an on line relationship, I feel that to find your soul mate, you need to see them and meet them in person and click in person. I think you can weed out a lot of the bad qualities in a person via on line, but that is if they are telling you the truth and vice verse. That answers the 'Can you fall in love part', but if you and he are married to other people then you are being unfaithful to your mate and you owe it to your spouse and he to his spouse to try to make the marriage work or leave it. To do anything else makes you no better than a person who is sleeping around on their mate.

Answer 8

I am from India and I would just ask you to excercise some amount of caution before you advance this relationship

Lots of Indian Males look on Foreign girls as the easiest way of Immigration.

Answer 9

Yes it can happen, but I don't see how the two of you are going to work. You are both married. This sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. What if he turns out to be a perv or something? Are you willing to mess up your marriage for something like that? Think about it. Good luck!

Answer 10

I have a friend who has fallen in love with a woman he met in second life. He is buzzing with positivity, and they will meet in person in a few weeks time. But so far they have only seen each others avatars! I am worried for him.