what do i do with my 3 yr. old biter part 2?

Question

i asked the question what do with my 3 yr. old biter that is about to get kicked out of preschool? he started biting when he was 18mo to about 2 1/2. we tried EVERYTHING then. nothing worked. he fianally just stopped. he has not done this in about a year. and now that he has started again we don't know what to do. we have spanked, taken favorite things away, his daddy wore his tail out REAL GOOD (which hardly ever happens), made him bit soap, washed his mouth out. he got suspended for a week. next time it happens he is out for good. he said since he was "ugly" in the afternoon he does not have to go back to the afternoon part, and he can still go to his morning class. of course we exlpained that it doesn't work that way. my parents want to pick him up after preschool is over and him not go to the afternoon part. which is great, but will we be doing the wrong thing by taking him out of the situation instead of fixing it? or do i just wait untill he does it again?

Answer 1

Does your son have any other behavior problems or concerns? Does he have normal language skills for a 3 yr old? The reason I'm asking is that some children with autism are biters. If you have other concerns about his development, I would suggest having him evaluated by a specialist.
Maybe there is a reason it happens in the afternoon. Some kids bite when they are stressed. Is somebody picking on him?
Is he tired or hungry? If you could find out what is happening right before he bites you will have a better idea of how to fix it.

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Answer 2

Yes, i think by taking him out of the situation, you will be doing wrong. He needs to know that biting will not be tolerated. Stand him in the corner, take away his toys all night, and don't baby him. Don't hit him, spank him, or anything else, because by doing that you are saying, well hey, you're being violent, so to fix it, we will too. It's just teaching you're kid that violence is ok. I would suggest taking something he doesn't like and putting it in his mouth every time he bites. Like maybe lemon juice? You know how they give dogs bitter apple and they hate it? I know it sounds harsh, and I"m not trying to say your son is a dog, but maybe the concept will work and he will then associate biting with something that he doesn't like. If that doesnt work, he will eventually grow out of it. Good Luck!

Answer 3

When your child bites at that age it is sometimes a cry for attention. Children will either take positive or negative attention. When he does bite,You may tell the caregivers to place a teething ring in his mouth tell him to bite it if he feels angry or frustrated or you may even clip it on his shirt some how. Also once he has the teething ring in his mouth, focus all your attention to the child that was bitten. Ignore your child and hug and kiss the child that was bitten. DO NOT give your child attention. I work with children and this method has worked for me. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Biting is a hard habit to break. My son used to bite me and his little brother. I finally had enough when he took a chunk of skin off. I bit him back, not hard enough to break skin, but enough to leave a mark. It hurt his feelings more than anything, and after about a week, he quit. But everytime I bit him, after the mark was gone, he would still look at that spot 3 hours later and cry over it. It works, but most people won't do it.

Answer 5

my almost two year old was going through this too. he was biting his older brother alot. we would tell him no and make him say sorry. but that did not work he would do it again. and then one time he did it and i showed him where he had left a "boo-boo" on his older brother. he cried when he saw what he had done. we made him help wash and bandage the slight boo-boo. we had him kiss the bandaid and say sorry. we also told him that every time he bites he hurts his brother and thats not nice. and he just stopped. right then and there and has not bitten since good luck .

Answer 6

When my little brother and sister went through the biting stage, my parents gave them a nice bite themselves. I don't advise this because two wrongs don't make a right, but they never bit again! Good luck.

Answer 7

well when mine was little bitting became a problem. I tried everthing even bitting back made it worse. So I popped mine in the mouth and don't think bad of me I didn't beat my kids my son is eighteen has a god job has never been in any trouble and is very respectful. But he did stop bitting.

Answer 8

Bite him back and show him that it hurts (my Mom did that to me when i was 2 and i never bit again, not saying it's appropriate, just that it works). It seems that he is trying to find a way to control the situation, and he's succeeding.

Answer 9

Tell him Santa doesn't bring kids who bite presents (if your catholic it works). Sounds cruel but it works. You could also pretend to call, write Santa and tell him how your son isn't behaving in school. I start the Santa thing in September. I dread when mine get older and don't believe anymore.

Answer 10

the only thing that finally worked with my son was to bite him back! not hard enough to do any damage but hard enough to know it hurts.