Is there such a thing as a marrying type and am I trying too hard?

Question

Im a single attractive 32 year old black female non-professional with 2 little girls.

Answer 1

its a catch 22....i think there is b/c they are ready to settle down and know what they want and then there are the ones that aren't but in finding the right person they become the type.

stop looking....concentrate on whats important, you and your little girls...its like loosing your keys and looking everywhere for them..then you stop looking and just find them. i am a firm believer in this as it has happened a few times to me in past relationships..i would just decide to give up and then next thing i know i am in a relationship.

also...my OP only..i don't really care to date guys without kids...only b/c they cant understand where you are coming from as a parent (responsibilities and such), and b/c i have had my tubes tied I can't have children anymore and most guys without kids want their own. i had my 2 kids and i am very happy, i am not objected to having more, just don't want any more physically.

i have a b/f now who has kids and we get along great cause we know that we each have responsibilities to take care of and we aren't trying to call at all hours asking the other to come out....make sense?

hope this helps!

Answer 2

Yes there is definitely such a thing as a marrying type. For example if a man is 35 and still going to clubs regularly, has never had a long-term relationship, or gets uncomfortable when the subject of babies comes up... he's not the marrying type LOL!

I'm a 25 year old single mom of 2, so trust me, I know how hard it is! I've been turned down (very rudely sometimes) by men when they find out I come with kids!

Hope you don't mind, but I'll send you an e-mail tonight, maybe we can chat. My name is Jessica.

Answer 3

I don't think theres such thing as a "marrying type", because if you took everyone you knows husbands and tried to break their personalities down, would there be on single category they would fit in? Probably not. Focus more on traits, characteristics and things personally that you look for in someone. You have two children, so obviously you would want someone that loves kids and is a good father figure type. Theres nothing wrong with being picky in the male department. Your at an age where men shouldn't have to play games, and you shouldnt have to put up with them either. Be open minded as well, because you never know that unless you would have given that person a second chance could have been the love of your life.

Answer 4

You probably are trying to hard. Single women that are in their 30's and 40's tend to stress out a lot about being single. There is this societal stereotype that you are supposed to be married and the fact that you are not makes you feel like a social failure. This is a double edged sowrd. Not only does it stress you out and make your head heart worrying about it, but when you date, it keeps you from showing your true beautiful self and you show a desperate needy side, which nobody likes.

The solution:
You need to take one step back before you can move forward with a possible marriage. Even though you want a good relationship and want to be married you need to accept being a 32 y.o. ( or even a 38 y.o.) single mother and choose to be happy about it. You need to see that society says you are failing and decide that you are not failing you are happy in your situation. You control what you think. This will not only ease your mind, but it will make dating a blast again, because you won't stress about finding a mate but rather focus on making connection and really getting to know someone else, and if they are not the one you, you didn't waste another chance at happiness, you are already happy. This will also make you shine and attract your future mate.

Nobody else can control what you think, other than you.

Answer 5

Absolutely, there is a such thing as the marrying type.

Might I suggest two things that are working against you? Nope, they are not the two that you might think to be obvious. One, you ask if you're trying to hard. If you ask, you might be.

Second, you can be a professional in a non-professional job. Carry yourself like a professional. Perhaps if you rethink how you see your self in that sense it can give you the boost or pick me up you need to attract the marrying type.

Just a thought to help an attractive sistah out. Best wishes to you!!

Answer 6

Well,straight up having two kids is going to turn most guys off. I would not mention that in the first few sentences of meeting someone. I am sure you have a lot to offer a man, and if you are patient, will find one who can accept you and the girls as a wonderful additon to his own life.

Answer 7

Just be who you are dear. There is probably someone out there for you, but if there isn't, then be thrilled with yourself and your family!! You have 2 awesome blessings in your life!! Concentrate on them and being a happy family just you 3. If someone else comes along, great!! If not, great too!! Good luck honey!!

Answer 8

"Does putting menstrual blood in spaghetti really work?
I know its gross which is why I've never done it but I honestly think I know men who who have had this done to them.And shoot if these women can get and keep their man that way maybe I ought to try it."

ASKED BY Wiln2tryd: (Read her other question on board)
In the "MYTHOLOGY AND FOLKLORE SECTION."

Please lady, did you put menstrual blood in your boyfriend's food to get your two daughters? And do you put menstrual blood in your children's food? I hope social services takes away your children. You are an unfit mother.

May God in High Heaven help you, and may the Holy Spirit guide you.

Answer 9

First be you! Now I have heard that saying & I took it as a woman that is supportive with your husband & family.Then you could think of the other saying that I have heard . You can't turn a ho into housewife. I think that you should just try harder at being you & everything will fall right into place. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Some people are ready to settle down and many are not. If you are attractive then you shouldn't have to try too hard. Just be patient and keep looking.