My 7yr old daughter talks to herself..HELP>>>>?

Question

I have 3 kids a 7 yr old girl a 5 yr old girl and a 3 yr old boy. Ever since my 7 yr old was 2 years old she would either sit at my front door or at a window looking up to the sky and talking to herself when I would ask who she is talking to she would say family that where dead and she never meet them before. Now she will come home from school do her homework go to her room either look out the window or sit on her bed and carries on a full conversation when asked who she's talking to now she says I don't know. I brought this to the attention of my doctor when she was doing this at 2 and he said it's okay she has a imaginary friend, but now I need some advice. She also lies about pushing, hitting her siblings and blame the other sibling even though they didn't do it. My other children don't do this.Please HELP

Answer 1

She's just a child with a healthy imagination. It's no different from adults who pray to a god. Imaginary friends are normal.

Answer 2

I am a mom of two girls 8 and 5 and a boy 3. As a mom I would think the pushing and laying blame is normal. The talking to people who are not there could be all sorts of things. She could still have imaginary friends, she could be very creative and imaginative or it might be a way of relieving stress. I would not worry. And death is very mystical for children and I think they feel a connection to things unknown. Now if she is hurting the siblings and saying her imaginary friend did it or if she says her imaginary friend told her to do something I would take her to the doctor. If it is just creativity don't suppress it. Don't break her spirit and creativity.

Answer 3

I'll bet the blaming things on her other siblings is just a kid thing but as for the talking to dead people thing...
why not? why is that so freaky and wrong? I say encourage it, maybe she's speaking with people that you wish you could talk to if you were "spiritual" enough or whatever it is that allows people to talk to people on the other side. You may be glad you did someday because you will help her be a spiritual guide that could help other people.
On the other hand, someone mentioned in a different response that she may have some associative disorder and I guess that can't be totally ruled out ..does she seem to be normal in most other ways? If thats true,I wouldnt worry about the pyshiatric eval. If she does seem to have lots of other issues, it couldnt hurt to have her looked at! You may be saving her and you lots of years of frustration. Good luck, let us know what you do!

Answer 4

I hate to say it, but you need to take her for a psychiatric evaluation. This could be an early form of disassociative personality dissorder, or even schizophrenia. There are more things it may be, but it is certainly not normal behavior for a child of that age. She needs to be evaluated extensively, and by catching it early on, you will be able to help with any problems she may have. Please take her to a good, experienced child psychologist, nothing about this behavior sounds right, especially since it has persisted for so long a period. The length of her symptoms frightens me.

Do her "friends" answer back? If she doesn't know who she is talking too, that is certainly not good.
On a spiritual note, demons could be talking to her, that is bad as well.
Do they tell her to push and hit?

Answer 5

Its normal i work at a daycare and children sometimes just talk out loud to their selfs and at 7 i wouldnt worry about it, at 9 or 10 i would.

Maybe she is just lonely and needs more friends to play with? Sometimes this is why children will talk to there self and pretend their playing with someone that isnt there or push other siblings in anger. A pet would even be good for her.

Or take her to bible school to meet more friends

Answer 6

when she talks, does it look like she is looking at another existing person? does she talk with confidence to the "exciting" person? ore does she talk loud? does she seem scared? for me it seems like she is talking to a person that is uplifting her, and giving her confidence. but will turn on her in an instance, like giving her nightmares, scare her, making her do stuff shes not aware of. that is a few things i wonna say you should not do: 1.you should not get mad at her. 2. you should not bring her to people who believes there is no such thing as an spiritual world. 3. you should not let your daughter be alone in her room. 4. you should not scare her, like asking questions, telling her its not normal, basically don't keep focus on that person because it will make him stronger. 5. make schore your daughter always feel wanted, because there is a reason why she rather be alone. this "person" who is negative for her, (that i feel he/she is) will try to destroy everything around her. she is only 7 years old, and she need someone who really knows about the spiritual world. if you have any questions, or want help from me. just wright me some updates on my e-mail [e-mail]

Answer 7

If you are really that concerned you need to press the issue with your doctor, although it is more then likely not a medical concern, but an emotional issue and your Primary can suggest a therapist or find one in your health care network and see what your health cares policies are on therapy and get her some help. You are the parent and your gut will usually not steer you wrong. Advocate for your child and yourself until you feel satisfied that her well being is what is should be.

Answer 8

my 8 year old does the same thing. when she was 2 she could see people outside looking in. Now shes 8 and she can touch a light switch without scuffing her feet and blow the light bulb if shes angry.She talks to herself lots of times and sometimes even pretends her friends are there with her. i know this sounds odd but its just their way of letting off steam or their overactive imagination. An who knows maybe they are talking to someone on the otherside or is in tune with something we cannot see or hear. give her a journal tell her that its hers and for her to write her feelings in her journal even its just drawing a picture.Buy her an easle and some paints and just let her get out her feelings and thoughts that way. Everyone has to have a stress outlet at some point and maybe thats hers,

Answer 9

Its normal, when she gets to about 12, then it would be a problem, she may not be unable to comunicate with other children as well as the otehrs, and talking to her 'friends' may be the only way she gets to communicate with other people. Im no expert, but my sister had imaginary freind when she wa younder, she grew out of it, dont push her, as she will feel threatened and get sad, to her you may be taling the only feind she has away!
Introduce her to otehr girls and boys, have a play date, where you and other mums get together and have tea etc and the kids can play, you dont have to tell the other mums what is happening, its not bad or unuasual, although you may feel weird.
Get your daughter to read to you etc.
Also, i know the youngest is 3, but somtimes a pet can help them, they can talk to the dog or cat, or bird etc and they feel like they have control over something.
Fish are excellent, they can feed them and talk to them, and the younger child cant touch it oir get hurt etc

I hope this helps

Answer 10

Sounds like she's very sensitive, and should be supported, not punished. Have you ever watched Sylvia Brown on Montel? I'm sure you could contact her (or have one of your daughter's friends do it! sorry, couldn't help myself).
Honestly, it's not anything to be upset about, she's special and has a gift. She should have help learning how to deal with it, she needs to learn to deal with the real world as well as the spirits.