I'm looking for answers that tell how Gracious Host defies Doormat and still comes out smelling like roses.
2006-10-10 05:06:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I love all these answers I'm getting. You are all very insightful. The problem is, of course, most people these days don't even realize when they are being rude. Their parents let them pick and choose every meal, and most people assume their hostess will do the same, without insult.
2006-10-10 05:37:43 · update #1
This is when you need to be "creative" with what you say to them.
At this point, you already know that they DON'T know the first thing about etiquette so to come out smelling like roses, say something like, I"'m so glad that you were able to come to dinner. The pleasure of your company has made it well worth the time and heart that I put into preparing it for you". In making a statement like this you have complimented them (showing that you're the bigger person) and brought to light the fact that you put a lot of effort into the dinner. If they have any manners whatsoever, they will immediately feel ashamed.
2006-10-10 08:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by andi b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O, don't be rude EVER, you will never smell like roses. Chances are the other guests noted her rudeness and they are listening to your reply.. Say this... "Thank you for so graciously noting my cooking, I will be sure to get some lessons in the future, or something to that effect." You must never insult her. Just being extra nice is an insult. Everyone will be impressed and the guest will be embarrassed. Have a great day!
2006-10-10 05:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course, any guest prepared to be so ill mannered as to insult their host requires putting in their place. It should however be a response measured to the degree of insult, done quickly and cleanly. There is no place for degenerating into open warfare. Tit for tat then draw a line under it. An apology if offered should be graciously received.
2006-10-10 05:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by questioneer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with mumluvsherboy. It's not appropriate to be rude. Chances are that the guests don't even intend to be rude, so taking offense when none is intended is foolish. You can:
1. Talk to them later about it, and mention that it hurt your feelings.
2. Don't invite them over anymore for dinner.
3. Let someone else do the cooking the next time they come over.
2006-10-10 06:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile and say, thank you I appreciate your gracious suggestion about how to improve my cooking. Then when she gets a chance to get the person alone she tells them off, but with the sweetest smile ever. Southern women are great at this!
2006-10-10 05:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The hostess should begin to clear the table, the instant that the food has been insulted.
2006-10-10 05:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer curse because of the fact apparently trashy and human beings usually get so indignant that they only curse and fail to get their think approximately the time of, then experience sorry approximately it later. I insult them returned yet i'm plenty extra venomous approximately it. i'm brutally truthful because of the fact human beings hate having their fears and doubts shown out loud so i attempt to comprise that into it with out being low. barely sufficient to remind them that they have flaws and insecurities too and it does not experience so sturdy whilst somebody shoves them on your face publically. i are conscious of it style of sounds undesirable, yet lots of the time human beings like that want somebody who would be in basic terms as mean as them or perhaps meaner to stay away from their habit from repeating. i think of you'll be bitchyenough or you will get walked throughout. in basic terms insult them yet be brutally truthful and don't communicate sh!t. That way you could look returned on it and be like "I wasn't insulting them, i became giving them useful grievance" lol p.c. your battles wisely and don't insult somebody over each little element so don't be queenbitch 24/7 in basic terms once you'll be then bypass returned to being civil and lovable
2016-12-26 15:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are and do it so the bit** has to own up to her rudeness and tell her as* off with a smile and never raising your voice in anger,just enough for all quest to hear.Don't forget to smile real pretty.
2006-10-10 05:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Can't give you a good put down though. It might help to know what the guest said.
2006-10-10 05:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by lucy02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say,, I'm sorry the food was not up to your standards , I'm sure(then name the nastiest place this person is known to eat) has a good deal going there maybe you should went there,,,please let us know how that goes as you escort them to the door
2006-10-10 05:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋