I broke up with my boyfriend of five years in April this year because of religious differences...he did say he wanted to convert before but I realize that I couldn't be selfish to make him give up the one thing that he has faith in, which is why I gave him up. I know we can't be together but lately I've just been so miserable. I want to move on, and I don't want to go back to him, but why is it so hard..Sometimes it hurts so bad. I don't want to cry anymore. Please, please help me move on...I would appreciate anything and everything you have to say. Thank you.
2006-10-10 05:04:59 · 7 answers · asked by Dellilah Patchouly 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Say. Surely my prayer and my sacrifice and my life and my death are (all) for God, the Lord of the worlds" (6:162)
You love your faith more than you love him. That's why you gave him up. And this is a good starting point towards being able to move on. What you need to do now is to strengthen your faith a little bit more and believe that the only worthwhile rewards that we can receive are the rewards from God.
You love your boyfriend. There's nothing wrong with that. In fact, it is perfectly normal to feel love. But when you love, love for the sake of God. Love what God loves and discard what God does not love. If you love God enough, you should be able to do this.
So strengthen your faith and think only of the rewards from God for those who truly submit to him.
Think of what you are going through now as a test, because that's exactly why we are here on earth - to be tested.
"And We shall try you until We test those among you who strive their utmost and persevere in patience..." (47:31)
2006-10-10 06:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by rempuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweetheart u have to look at it this way, if u beleive in God then u have to realize it was meant to be, that someone else out there is the one for you. i know how hard it is, and 5 yrs is a longgggggggg time relationship. ur not gonna get over it in just a few months. this is a part of u that u had to let go. so just pray to God that he will mend ur heart and to help u move on. sorry to hear that ya broke up. wish ya the best in life and remember theres is someone in this world for everyone
2006-10-10 12:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by texasdaddy2009 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were with this person for 5 years so of course you're still going to want to rely on him and be with him. Its a weird adjustment from having a person around constantly to not having them any more. If you really think that this was the right decision then its only going to take time to get over him.
Think about the fact that there are plenty of other men out there to date. Go out with your friends to try and get your mind off of him. Go to the gym and exercise. If you're feeling good about yourself and your image you wont think about him as much.
2006-10-10 12:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by JayEmmBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way cuz i just broke up with my bf too but it's like I don't want to be with him but then again I don't want to be alone. You'll get over him in time, just try to keep ur mind off of him. You're like me..you don't really miss him but you just miss being with someobody. Don't worry about it girl it's normal...mr right will come along b4 you even know it. Good luck!
2006-10-10 12:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot move on if you still love him. Get rid of your love (i know it's not easy) and it will take a long time to heal the pain but if your serious with your chosen path then you can make it. Learn to forgive and accept the fact and learn from it. Good luck!
2006-10-10 12:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by crazylove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohmy gosh. i know exactly how you feel. i mean its natural to still miss him and be sad because you were with him for so long. he was a big part of your life, you know? i once heard this quote that says "just because you love someone...doesn't mean that it is going to work out." and im not saying that to discourage you. i've been in your situation and in some ways i still am... and i have to keep tellin myself that every day. we broke up a while ago... people just have different journeys in life you know...and people just have to do what they have to do. also, my ex and i mainly broke up for religious reasons also.
they should want to change for themselves and not because of u..
its natural to be misreble and sad.. but don't let it take over your whole life.
i know MOVING ON is easier said than done.. believe me! and i don't mean moving on with someone else.. but in your heart you need to tell yourself that there is better out..and stay optimistic
2006-10-10 12:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years is a long time to cry over someone..how does that happen. find someone else you can laugh with. there is not only one person in this world for you.
2006-10-10 12:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by naa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋