My mom is a drug addict who hates me.
My father is a dead-beat who has contacted me in months.
The rest of my family might charge me to talk to them...they are so money hungry that even when I try to talk to the older ones the conversation becomes all about them
I have no friends
My boyfriend is dead.
I failing classes in skool (college sophomore) and in debt up to my neck (well only about a thousand or so cuz of books)
My life is just F%#@$# up.
And God really doesn't care.
2006-10-10 04:47:49 · 24 answers · asked by Gifted and Gracious 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Go see a priest, a counselor, a minister, maybe. Good luck.
2006-10-10 04:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by jessiekatsopolous 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget God, he doesn't exist. We make our own misery and happiness.
Mom hates you? Well there's not much you can do about that. It's her feelings not yours. Maybe someday she will find sobriety and she can be in your life.
Your father is a loser and what a shame for him he doesn't know you and participate in your life.
Keep your money and tell your money grubbing family to get lost and find role models elsewhere like at school or work.
You have no friends because you are miserable and no one wants to hang with you. Smile. Make friends by saying hi to people. Get out in the community. If you are fun to be around you will make friends.
Okay, so your boyfriend is dead? Move on. There are more boys out there.
Why are you failing school? I know your life sucks but don't you see that a college degree is your ticket to a better future? Get a tutor if you need help and ask your professors what you can do to better your grades.
One thousand dollars in debt? Most of us are in debt for much more than that and we manage. Go to a debt counselor if you need help.
Yes your life is just F%#@$# up but quit sniveling and change. We all have the power to control our lives and make changes for the better. Look around, life can be good.
If God were real I don't thing he would care. We make our futures.
2006-10-10 17:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came from a very messed up family. My mom was an abusive alcoholic, and my dad was never around. I was molested and raped by family members. And this was only the beginning of it all. However, I can tell you, God Does Care! If it wasn't for Him, I would not be alive, writing this to you, right now. And I am HAPPY to be alive! I am now 39 yrs of age, have 2 beautiful teenage sons, and due to my upbringing, I minister to others who are in need, and going through problems. I can help others, because I have been there. I am thankful for the life I had (I wasn't thankful while it was happening). But, I can look back, now, and realize how much strength and inner character and compassion I have learned from my horrible childhood. It might be hard to see the light, right now, but when it does shine through, it will be brighter than you will ever be able to imagine. And it will make you glad.
2006-10-10 12:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Monic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really having a terrible time at the moment. It is obvious everything has become too much. When we are overwhelmed we tend to look at only the negative. And sometimes there is so much rubbish going on it is difficult to believe there can be any good anywhere. But you sound like a good person.
Life is a roller coaster, there can be moments of up and terrible downs.
Try to focus on the tiniest good things that happen. I mean really tiny. Like, my bus was on time, the sun shone today etc. Also
I have a little phrase that helps a lot in life it's 'MAKE IT HAPPEN'
Make nice things happen for you. Even if it is a warm shower/bath and hot chocolate. Whatever it is that you like and you can do, then do it. You see if you imagine balancing scales and you put all your troubles on one side, you need lots of little good things to put on the other side to keep a balance.
Something that can really make you feel good is to aim to do one kind gesture each day for someone else, they will benefit and you will too. I often think of that song : What Have You Done Today To Make You Feel Proud? and I often ask myself that at the end of a day.
If things are going really bad and you focus on ONLY that, then you are conditioning your mind to think negatively.
I wish you luck. Be strong.
2006-10-10 14:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, God really does care. Drug addicts are incapable of loving while they are in active addiction. you know to have a friend you must be one. Find a church. Maybe a large one that has a singles sunday school class. Ask to see your pastor. He will help. If he does not council, he can point you in the right direction. Maybe you will have to find a family that you create. Read your bible everyday. Trust God. He loves you so much. He will put people in your life. Be patient and above all Don't give up on God.
2006-10-10 11:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step will be the hardest, but your school definitely has counselors of some type. They deal with this all the time. Don't be ashamed to go talk to them, and if you do not hit it off with one, try another until you make a connection. if you have health insurance, go through that. As far as God, I cant comment on that, because things in my life are a little screwy right now.
Please talk to someone. Maybe you could call a hot line if you want to be anonymous.
It sounds like your family is toxic, I would stay away from them until you get things straight with you
2006-10-10 11:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.It defines who you are in life.It also gives you pride,and humbles you at the same time.
Everyone goes through the way you are feeling.Just remember things change,and there's a light at the end of the tunnel.You might not be able to see it but it's there.
I also believe god has a way of making you realize you are human and is trying to show you ,you can handle what life throws your way.
Also you are an individual,separate from your family.Learn from there mistakes,and break the cycle.
As far as your boyfriend,the only thing i can point out to you is my belief.Which is he is not dead,he lives in your heart and the heart of those who love him.
Here's another thing for you to keep in mind,There is always someone who has it worse than you.And if they can make it through all the troubles ,so can you.
Just remember life is full of beautiful things.And it would be tragic for you or anyone not to enjoy that beauty.
Good luck to you friend,and god bless
2006-10-10 12:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by seandebra17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget God. God never intervenes in anything.
If you want a friend to talk to, just email me! Use the emailing thing that Yahoo answers has. I'd love to talk to you! I can even help with study, being an answers kind of guy. Seriously people want friends like you, so let us help!
Don't forget you can sell your books after you have used them! They are a temporary expense that you get back at the end of the year.
Anway, your life has only just started. There's almost a whole lifetime full of good stuff ahead, even if it is a bit punctuationed up now. :-)
2006-10-10 12:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by Carl K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a priest because they generally are the only men who are really genuine about that sort of situation, they have no vested iinterest unlike a MD or a psy or a counselor who is going to charge you or put you on drugs jut like your Mom. Talking to someone who cares and listens is the best thing that can happen to you. It will show you that there are real people with real feelings and not only a bunch of idiots like in your family.
2006-10-10 12:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you say is true then don't look to parents or anyone else to make your happiness. You are the responsible party, everything anyone else provides is a bonus. As you mentioned about older siblings they are more interested in themselves than you so move on. Don't rule out God for He is ever faithful and tells us in His Word "Cast your cares upon Him for He careth for you" .Don't always look for immediate answers, God will answer in His time when it's best for you. Perhaps from your current situation you will learn to be more independent and will become a much stronger person. You are responsible for you, you are no longer a child dependent on your parents (is nice if you had caring ones). Map out your current situation and then see what you can do to make things better and do them one step at a time at the same time keep God in the loop. You can do it!!!
2006-10-10 12:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by Steiner 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God does care. He loves you and wants you to be happy. I realize that you have unfortunate circumstances in your life but never blame them on God. God allows us to make choices. And your family has chosen to make the wrong ones...but that doesn't mean that you have to. See a counselor today.
There are always college groups that get together and fellowship. Seek out positive friends. When you seek God I can tell you from experience that it is the most peaceful and joyful experience that you will ever have.
2006-10-10 12:01:06 · answer #11 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋