say your in a loving relationship and your gf thinks you still have feelings for your ex, and you do,should u should u tell her? even though the girl might get upset? and possibly leave you even though, the feelings for my ex are not THAT strong. what do i do?
2006-10-10 04:44:48 · 21 answers · asked by AWESOMA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES you should tell her..... I think if your having these feelings your not totally committing yourself to your gf.... its not fair to her at all. It should be her choice to want to stay wtih you knowing that you have those feelings, not your choice. I am sorry, but it looks to me that you need to figure out what you want so you don't end up hurting your current GF. Don't do that to her.
2006-10-10 04:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think by no means you should tell her this you will confuse her. When in the end who is really confused is you. Think straight about why you are still attracted or have feelings for your ex and I think you alone should make the decision to leave your current girlfriend if you do not have any true feelings for her. You may also be remebering all the good things about your ex and have forgotten about all the bad that made her an ex in the first place. Maybe you got into this new relationship too soon and need time to be alone. Think it thru since you mentioned your new relationship as loving do not lose something meaningful with this new person in your life. It's not easy to come by.
2006-10-10 12:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by martica595500 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your going to do that you might as well lick you finger and touch a light socket while your at it. Or ask to be a tester for the new shock therapy machines while drinking water.
NO! She will take it the wrong way. I'm being honest here she will not be happy, she will think there is something wrongwith her and start a fight. DO NOT DO IT!
She will bring it up often and even begin to wonder if you still seeing her on the side. I'ts normal to feel that way, just don't tempt anything if you willing to loose the current flame. Have you not learned nothing from Hnder? Look at how many relationships ended because of that Song Lips of an Angel!
2006-10-10 11:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, if you say your feelings for you ex are not that strong, leave it alone. Now if you feel that you love the other then tell her.
Most people that have been with a person for a while still have feeling for the other person. My first husband, was my first everything, (if you know what I mean) and I still have love for him. But this is the kicker, I have heard of him, when he visits my daughter, but I have not laid eyes on him since, now I am married to my second husband for 30 years and I love him too. So don't tell her unless you want to go back to the other young lady. I have kept my feelings to myself for this long, I think you can too. Good luck.
2006-10-10 11:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, the feelings might grow and you don't want that to happen and your still with her, you will hurt her then more than u might hurt her now by just telling her the feeling are not strong, just a kind of late rebound feelings, be sure to tell her the level of your feelings, if you love her, confront the feelings you have for your ex. good luck
2006-10-10 12:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone told me that, then I would automatically think I didn't mean half as much to that person.
Ur gf would most likely feel that way too. Personally, I would just keep things to the back of your mind. If ur feelings for ur gf become strong (like they do in a good relationship) then ur feeling for ur ex will go.
2006-10-10 11:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by scaryclairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the feelings are strong and you can't concentrate fully on your new girlfriend, then you need to say something. Yes, you would hurt her feelings, but why are you with her if you have feelings for your ex? You need to focus on getting over the ex. Because it sounds like you're on the rebound. Although, if the feelings aren't damaging your current relationship there's no need to tell.
2006-10-10 11:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by B U Tiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is what makes realtionships work. tell her the truth but stress that they aren't that strong. if you just broke up w/ your ex its understandable to still have feeling for that person. make sure your gf understands your side of the story.
it would also help if she's not upset or anything when you tell her.
2006-10-10 11:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenixx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm are you friggin crazy?? If you have feelings for your ex just think she is an ex for a reason!!!! if they are not that strong then dont say a damn thing !!! and if they are what are you doing with the new girl anyway?
2006-10-10 11:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by treez1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to be honest and eliminate that bridge between you and let her know that the feelings just aren't strong and you are committed to her. She will respect you more and trust you for your honesty. If she is mature she shouldn't get upset. Give her assurances so that she will not be jealous.
2006-10-10 11:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋