I'm quite confused, why my ex-gf is so strange..
After we broke up, we haven't talk for some time, but suddenly she started to send sms's and chat with me like she wanted us to be close again. But then, some weeks later,she kept a distance again, become a cold person, very cold. She repeated that twice. One day, I received a text message from her, asking to start some conversation. But I think, that was enough, so I said that I was busy, maybe another time, a conversation is fine. We never talked anymore. A few weeks later, I heard from her sister and friends that she wanna returned. but coz I just getting sick of her act, I just ignored her.
So, I have 2 questions.
What is her game?
Did I do the right thing to ignore her?
Thanks..
2006-10-10 04:34:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Either she is playing the hard to get game or she wants your attention only when she is bored.
Run from this one. She will only cause you headaches and heartache.
Next time she contacts you tell her you have a new girlfriend and that your time is booked. Don't let her smooze you right back stay tough and stand strong. Let her play her little act on someone else.
Sounds like you are a nice guy so go out and find a better match. There are lots of girls out there. Anyone can get a girl. The secret to happiness is you need to find the right girl the perfect match. Don't waste your time or talent on a loser.
2006-10-10 04:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your gf might be regretting that she left you.
And don't know how to get back to you...and trying.
She does care for you, but she is fighting with her self, or someone else might be telling her, that going back to her ex will not do anything good for future relationship...or whatever.
She's not playing games. She's just confused, and can't make up her mind.
I think if you do care for you as well, you should straightly ask her, why she's acting this way, and if she want to see you or not, honestly. If she gets back to you with an honest answer, I think that will make her tense loosen up.
If you don't think you're interested in her any more, leaving her was the right thing to do.
But I do honestly think she was just scared...
How you want to proceed with her, is your desision.
2006-10-10 04:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her game is attention. She just wants someone to notice her and be curious about her. That is it.
You did well. Don't give in, it is a control game. If she knows you will run to her aide or drop something for her she will lose interest. As long as she knows she can't snap her fingers and make you come, you are in control and she will stay interested.
Assuming you still want to have a relationship.
2006-10-10 04:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 - Here game is that she see's you as her PLAY THING...her TOY, and whenever she is feeling lonely or sorry for herself, she makes contact with you in order to make herself feel better!!
Firstly, congratulations on staying away and NOT getting back together with her! Because then she will just push you around even more!
She's keeping you on a leash for just incase she feels needy, and she can call you for COMFORT SEX or watever!
2 - the best way to get rid of her is to reply to one of her sms's one day and tell her that you broke up with her and are not together with her for a reason!
Tell her that you have moved on with your life, and she should move on with hers! Then DO NOT reply to anymore of her sms's...(even the ones she sends begging you to go back to her)
After about 2 or so weeks, she will get the hint that you are definately not interested anymore and move on!
2006-10-10 04:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jazz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did right by not making yourself available. sounds like she is taking you for granted, thinking that u are gonna be there when she finds time for you. unfortunately her motives aren't clear, however, you seem fine without her. with her constantly changing personality she is either playing you or she has a mental disorder... steer clear
2006-10-10 04:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by sickofmakinthemgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amigo
no es un juego como piensas, ella esta haciendo que le des importancia, y ya ves que lo esta logrando.
siguela nomas, ella esta interesada en ti
Atte
2006-10-10 04:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by Amigo R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she was confused to her feelings as much as u do...she is wasn't sure or afraid if she want to be close to u or not thats why she change moods easily...i think its ur right to ignore her since u feed up to her reactions toward u...give her space to think right for herself...
2006-10-10 04:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by rare_1428 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she can't decide whether she likes you or not. If she's acting like that, I would probably ignore her too.
2006-10-10 04:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋