Are you, or would you ever want to be in an 'open' relationship?

Question

Whereby you have an understanding where you can still have other sexual partners. Do people actually do that? I've never met anyone who has.

Answer 1

To be honest I don't think it ever really works out. There no different to having a **** buddy really. I have one and even though we're both quite relaxed about it, there's always that niggle in the back of your mind. You grow closer and things change. I nvr tell him he can't go with anyone else but I'd feel horrible if I knew he had. I think that's only natural when you spend time together. We talk every day, n if I don't txt he'd think there was something wrong. We spend most weekends 2gether and at least 3 days of the week. I feel quite lucky for the moment cuz he says he doesn't want to go with anyone else, that he's happy with me, but sometimes you can't help but feel sad and frustrated inside that they might go elsewhere. It's a horrible feeling. So I guess if your strong enough to be in an open relationship, and can handle the thought of someone else touching ur partner then good luck to you, I just think eventually it will end in tears. What happens when one decides they want to give it up n the other doesn't?

Answer 2

In theory, I like the idea of it, mainly because it seems natural to me that all human beings have feelings of affection and/or sexual attraction to more than one other human being. Attempting to possess, or monopolise, one other person for yourself is always going to fail. Unfortunately, on the other hand, I think that jealousy is also a natural human response - when you feel attached to someone, you want to feel that they are equally attached to you. I would never want to demand that because a man has me, he doesn´t need anyone else, but on the other hand, I wouldn´t want him to constantly prioritise other people over me. If you have an open relationship, there is always a risk of competitveness - if one person finds another partner and the other one doesn't, the other one might feel that the first is having their cake and eating it too.

Anyway, while I'm sceptical of just having meaningless sex on the side (which implies the cynicism of using someone´s body when they don´t mean anything to you), I did try to have a three-way meaningful relationship once. It didnt work - the guy involved was too demanding of me, had too high expectations of me. DId you see the Channel 4 series on polyamorous relationships? They seemed to make it work, but it does seem like it takes a lot more time and effort than just one relationship does

Answer 3

Some of my mates have and every time it's ended in tears. It starts out alright, with both sides agreeing and saying they understand the situation but then one will always get more attached than the other. They end up very hurt but they have nobody to blame but themselves because they let it happen. The other party usually ends up feeling very guilty and/or resentful of them. Usually the upshot of the situation is that two people who like eachother, get on well and could be good friends and maybe even a couple at some point in the future end up hating eachothers guts.

Not saying this is what always happens but has been with the people I know.

I think it's a bit nasty and sordid really. I'd never do it.

Answer 4

"i don't extremely prefer to share him and that i don't prefer to do something with all of us else." this is your answer. it is not gonna artwork for you. in case you do not prefer to share him then it is barely gonna deliver approximately heartache and drama. in simple terms think of him telling you he had intercourse with yet another chick final evening. i don't think of you would be in simple terms cool and casual with that. maybe you're able to act that way, yet at last it is going to debris with you and in simple terms blow up. Be truthful with your self. i will tell deep down you do not prefer an open courting, yet he does and you nevertheless prefer him. If he's caught on having an open courting then you definately must be one hundred% useful you would be pleased with him having intercourse with different ladies. If not it's time to place the courting on carry and maybe get lower back mutually while Uni is over.

Answer 5

Although a great fantasy I really couldn't see it working. Both partners have to pu a lot of work into relationships nowadays due to the stress of modern living/working. And I can't see how it is practical to spend time with other people.

Answer 6

I'm not now as I'm getting married soon. But in the past i have wanted one.

People do,do it and it does make some relationships stronger.

You've met me now

Answer 7

I don't know. I guess I think it's ok, as long as it's no-strings-attached. Sometimes just sex on it's own is quite good, gets it out of your system. But beware of jealousy, it's a dangerous thing.

An honest answer.

Answer 8

My wife and I have had an open relationship for years. We both can play with anybody we want to. Sometimes we find couples and play together.

Answer 9

What's happened, have you and R2-D2 had a fight, are you looking for robot love.

Honestly though, I don't like the thought of the sharing out of the sex, ew, in there, over in there, no can do.

Answer 10

well my friend,thats exactly what my chick wanted,to have me and other bits of meat to taste,i couldnt hack another guy inside my chick no way.but its up to u though.im jst out the relationship lst night,i told her it was all or nothing.and the outcome was we went our seperate ways.no friends nothing.but what ever u decide,remember theres alot of STDs out there so b carefull. good luck :) tell us the outcome