to make a long story short...I had a miscarriage (I didn't know i was pregnant) I told the guy that I have been dating for a couple of months now. (to me the miscarriage was a blessing in disguise) He stopped calling me and I did not call him for the sheer reason I did not want him to feel like I was cornering him or something. 2 1/2 weeks later he left me three messages to forgive him, don't hate him, he thinks he loves me, he's happy with me, he doesn't know why he "disappeared" like that, etc,,,
I like this guy alot and I feel so confused because he was just about out of my system and now it's full blown again. I called him but he hasn't returned my call and I think that he left these messages because he was feeling lonely and feeling bad.Does he really feel this way or was having a few drinks and it got to him? See? I just don't know...it's making me nuts!!!
2006-10-10 04:29:35 · 7 answers · asked by tonaloha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that he just needed still time to think things thru.Thats a good thing because he is giving the relationship real thought & has decided to proceed.Give him a chance again & please use birth control.
2006-10-10 04:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cared about you, he wouldn't of bolted the way he did. Most guys are primarily concerned with just themselves, and getting pregnant was bad news for him, so he took off. But his head is telling him he is a bad person for ditching you like that, and he can't forgive himself unless he knows you forgive him. that is all he is really looking for. He would probably get back together with you if he could and break up under different circumstances, just so he isn't the guy that ran when he was about to be a father.
Remember, actions speak louder than words. that doesn't mean flowers and being nice is all it takes. When a guy is there for you when you really need him, that is the action that is the loudest.
He just feels guilty and can't forgive himself.
2006-10-10 04:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, the fact that you think the miscarriage was a blessing in disguise tells me that you know this guy was not right for you.
I had the exact EXACT same situation. EXACT.
Count your blessings that you were able to get out of this bad situation. Move on, and don't get pregnant until you are married to a good guy who CARES.
2006-10-10 04:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was feeling guilty. Call & leave a message if you can't get him on the phone & tell him it's no problem, you had the miscarriage, you see how he reacts to problems, and wish him well in his life without you.
2006-10-10 04:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he called you because HE was feeling bad, because if he really liked you then he would have been there for you and not run off like that. You were the one that had the miscarrage and he properly disappered because he wasn't ready to have a kid, but people shouldn't runaway from their problems they should try and resolve them, he is being a pansy.
2006-10-10 04:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by Robyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's scared that you will get pregnant again and he doesn't want that right now. Let him know that you use protection now...and by the way....where is his rain coat?????
2006-10-10 04:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by voandginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go out with your friends,find another guy and try to forget this man. He doesn't deserve you.
2006-10-10 04:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by adrianasilviapp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋